Father of child - police HELP NEEDED

[spyninjamum]

Hi all,

First time post and what a big one unfortunately

background
child 8, split with father before birth - no real interest until future wife on scene really 4 year ago, i put in place every other weekend ( lives little town 90 miles away) arrangement for while now, and whilst few teething problems, all okay for few years.....

Today, i expressed how hard it is with our child and unsure what to do regarding school work lockdown etc, over text replying to the usual how are they
6 Hours later long came my ex, the future wife and 3 burley officers in riot van at my door for neglect? They did there checks etc which was v upsetting but understandable. All okay with them, and left apologizing for upsetting me and not really seeing the truth in what he had reported.
Police and Ex left. He has continued to harass me via text, non to which i have replied stating a full custody battle will commence

My head has gone, im devasted. Please can please advise me in any way they can, police asking to go through my cupboards to check i have food broke my heart. I dont know what to do next.

I also dont trust him to have "" over on hes time again. No court order or anything just dont trust he will return my child when he says

June2007 are you speaking from professional experience there?

I dont see how a one-off unfounded report to police (welfare check ensuing) would trigger SS to consider the mother a risk. Unless there are unknown factors here. Again, get legal advice. Dont go on hearsay on the internet.

If it was important enough to bring in the police then yes it is important enough for SS. Most people get the SS not the police. (but def best to get advice and not go on what is said here.)

No idea where she will be and im unsure what he said to the police for them to come in and do their checks

Just for the record, the police will attend a property to do checks as part of a welfare check. It is not an official investigation or allegation, it is essentially one parent voicing concerns to the police who send an officer over when they can. Depending on how these concerns were voiced would determine how quickly they would show up.

It's different from an allegation because it's more along the lines of "ex said this, which was uncharacteristic and she seems a little stressed, i'm a little worried that for her to mention something things could be much worse than she is letting on and I fear DC could be in trouble"

As opposed to "ex is neglecting DC and needs to be stopped, she basically told me how she can't cope and DC are showing signs of neglect"

On top of this I imagine ex just appeared, he wouldn't come along with police in this situation.

None of this changes anything, just thought it was worth pointing out the difference between a welfare check and allegations of neglect.

Now were onto the shared custody threats, unsure how that wuld work with schools etc as were 70 odd miles apart

@june2007 police would not attend unless he reported child was in immediate danger

Absolute rubbish! It's called a Welfare Check. Anyone in this country can have one done on anyone else in the country. Civil rights.
I had my daughter's paternal grandparents checked on when they were uncontactable. Police attended, checked they were ok and then I got a phone call back.

Please get your facts right before stating things like this. It's somebody's REAL LIFE we're talking about here.