How to try and restrict projecting my past on child?

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My baby isn't due for another couple of weeks, but a thread on here has made me think about this for a bit further down the line.

I was sexually abused as a child. I fully expect this to cause some irrationality on my part as my child grows up, and I know it will be a difficult balance between rationalising those thoughts but also trusting myself if something doesn't feel right.

Does anybody have any advice in terms of what I can do to try and have a balanced/healthier perspective of things eg. my child having relationships with adult men, such as grandparents/uncles. Has anyone been in a similar position and been able to feel comfortable that they've found a balance?

Have you fully processed the trauma of the abuse? I think I would start with that first. I had some sessions of EMDR therapy when I was pregnant for a similar reason (non sexual childhood trauma) and I think it helped.

I think the risk of projecting our own insecurities is higher if we haven't fully processed the original trauma and come to terms with it in some way.