Childs parent not following gov guidance covid19

[Veritygaz]

My childs father has not been following government guidance and has allowed my child out to play with lots of children (not social distancing and in groups of more than 6), visiting different family and friends inside their houses and giving cuddles etc. These people are working and so is he so therefore they are mixing with lots of other people daily, and god knows what else he is doing when my child is not there...
I am really not happy, my childs father does not see that he is doing anything wrong. I have decided to stop contact because of this as I do not want my child affected or myself and my other children (one of which is a 5 week old baby!)
I'm just after anyone's opinion with regards to this please.

I honestly dont blame you. I'm absolutly scared to death if catching it. My husband has returned to work today for the first time since our baby was born and hes 17 weeks today and hes a nervous wreck too.

I dont understand why people can't just stick to the rules. I live in the north west and it's one of the highest here. The sooner people abide by the rules then hopefully the quicker it can be over. Really wouldnt surprise me if there is a second wave. x

I'm so relieved to hear you are in agreement. I get so paranoid and then wonder if I'm over reacting but I'm only following the advice we are all given. I just dont understand why people think these rules dont apply to them and when they break them it impacts so many people.
Yes I think you're right about a second wave coming, it's such a scary time isnt it.

Oh I bet that's been a worry for both you and your husband on his return to work. I think most work places are being super cautious with their staff which is brilliant. It's a big change to get used to. Xx

This is really difficult.

If it wasn’t for the young baby in your home I would think you were overreacting but I can see why having such a young baby would make you feel more anxious about the virus. My only my question is how long will you drop contact for? I guess you have to balance the damage to their relationship with what the risk is? The virus is going to be about, most likely for a while so are you going to keep you child home from school in sept or will you feel better when the baby is a little older.

If my childs father was following the guidlines properly I wouldnt stop the contact at all. But it's the fact he is doing everything he shouldn't be doing therefore implementing more risks
I've been reinforcing the rules to my child, havent seen any of my family or friends because of the upset with not being able to hug etc, we have just had regular facetime calls and then his father contradicts everything potentially putting us at risk.
I understand the virus isnt going to disappear and we have to learn to live with it but surely that's why is so important for us to be doing what the guidlines say we should do?

I totally agree it must be so annoying to explain the rules to your child and then for the rules to be undermined and confused by their other parent. Young children especially need consistency and it’s a pain when the other parent doesn’t provide this. I think unfortunately a lot of people are seeing family etc now.

However in relation to risk, your family’s individual risk from the virus will be the same in 3 month, as it is now and as it was 2 months ago. So I guess What I wonder is, if in a few days they say families can visit each other in their houses will you let your son have contact then? If yes then I’m not sure that stopping contact now is worth it.

If boris says tomorrow all lockdown is lifted I would still be very careful. Until the virus is seriously low or completely gone I will protect my baby. I honestly dont know what I will do come February on my return to work.

Rules are rules @Veritygaz so nobody can call you otherwise. I've been told recently by family I'm being pathetic and over cautious. X

Laylor I guess the thing is the risk from the virus has to be balanced against other parts of your life. It may well be possible to keep socially isolated/distanced until February with a baby, but with an older child that would be more difficult. That would mean an older child being off school for almost a whole year, not seeing friends or extended family for almost a whole year etc. All that would have its own impact on mental health and relationships.

By the way I’m not saying continuing to self isolate isn’t the right decision, because clearly for some families, especially those with vulnerable people in, that will be the right decision. I’m just saying that the risk from the virus needs to be balanced against the potential issue caused by being away from education and family over a long period.