3.5 month old son will only sleep on us

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Hi everyone,
So our 3.5 month old son has spent his entire life sleeping on us. We are trying to transition him into his crib but without any luck. I've bought the little ones sleep programme and his day nap lengths and night sleeps are all fine he just has to be with us and being held!

Any advice would be very welcome . Other mums I met through an NCT course have all got their children into their cribs but they've used various forms of cry it out methods. I think I'm not going to be able to do that to him he's just a baby ... please let me know your thoughts?

I dont know were it came from as the one i have is a gift. You can buy teddys that have a heartbeat and vibrationton too mimic the mother. It worked for my daughter.

My DD1 eventually did it naturally. Around 7 or 8 months I think. DD2 is still sleeping on me for naps and in my bed at night. She's 6.5 months. I personally hate cry it out methods. Babies are programmed to need the closeness when they sleep. CIO doesn't teach them to self soothe, it teaches them there's no point in crying because no one comes. It's hard but your baby will get there naturally x

I think all babies sleep completely differently. With ds1, he took a dummy and we found bf difficult so I expressed and he loved the bottle. He would settle really easily in his cot. When ds2 was born, I thought i'd follow this again... wrong! Ds2 never settled in a cot, never took to a dummy but took to bfeeding from the start! I started co sleeping with him when he was 4 months as I couldn't stand the lack of sleep. He's almost 2 now and still sleeps with me but is more settled. Imo you just have to go with what keeps them happy!

I know thank you for that. I hate the thought of teaching my son that crying isn't worth it as nobody will come . How sad for him. We would let him grow out of the phase but he's a whopping 7kg already and my arms and shoulders ache. My husband can just about manage but finds him heavy to carry around ..

Just lie down with him and find a comfy and safe position. It took me ages to find a good position to sleep in with DD1 that was comfortable and more importantly, safe for her. My husband went in the spare room for a few months bless him. And for naps I just used to chill out on the sofa with her. I don't have that luxury with DD2 as I have the older one to care for so the longer afternoon nap is when we go out and get exercise. The moving pushchair is the only other place the baby will sleep!

As tough as it is now, remember that it won't last forever. And when it does stop, you'll look back and miss all those extra cuddles! ❤️

In the day my 14 week old DS pretty much only naps on us. Sometimes he will sleep in the swing. Every nap time I attempt to put him down somewhere.

At night he will now go to sleep in his next to me, but will wake between 1 and 3ish at which point I pull him into bed and co sleep (he’s dropped his night feed himself).

I also think we lockdown babies they are a little more clingy and perhaps makes a difference.

If it helps, most of my March support group still have babies that nap on them or in the sling xx

I hold my baby for all naps. Hes is 17 weeks today. He will go down in moses basket but will not sleep longer than 30 mins. It's so annoying. I dont mind holding him but it would just be nice for a but if a break x

Co sleeping? Lying next to you with an arm under him. Then slowly ease him away from you. You can get safety aids

Thanks ladies it looks like I'm not alone. I managed to get him into the sleepyhead on the bed next to me but I'm just waiting and watching for him to wake up looking for me

Gosh this takes me back!

My lo would not be apart from us during the day. For some reason at night she was fine.

During the day took ages. I think she was 8 months old by the time we got some relief. We gradually taught her that not being attached to us was ok and not scary. White noise and stroking hair really helped. The problem is now she wont go to sleep without hair stroking and ba ba black sheep 1000 times.