The Joys of Having Two Boys (Or more)

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I recently found out baby #2 is another boy and I am sick of the lacklustre or negative responses from people! He will be our last.. no “better luck next time”
So from mums of two boys or more - please tell me about the best bits so I can block the negativity out!

My mum died in the early stages of this pregnancy so I’ve had lots of people mention that it would be wonderful to have a little girl in sort of tribute to her so with this baby being a boy I feel as if I’ve disappointed a few people.

Nah, you'd still get shitty comments. My mum died during the pregnancy of my niece. My brother named my niece after mum as a loving tribute and some people were so hurt they refused to say her name.

Boys are great!

It is the best. They are friends and brothers and sleep i the same room. I wouldn't have a third child for fear of upsetting the dynamic we have here to be honest. They are a two some!

I have a daughter but I also have 2 nephews who are hilarious and full of beans. They get on great playing together and love their mum. They are more boisterous than my daughter but she is definitely more stroppy.
They are all healthy lovely kids so that's the main thing! Ignore the stupid comments you're getting.

I have two boys 9 and 5 they are truly best friends and are an absolute delight.

I loved reading everyone's lovely comments fed up of people thinking I need to try for a girl, boys are just as nice as girls

I’m expecting DS2 and he will definitely be our last. I was expecting comments but nothing so far. This might be because most people know I’m very ill in pregnancy and unlikely to be having more. However, I’ve been very careful in how I word the news and it might have helped.

Instead of saying “it’s another boy”, I have been saying “DS1 is getting a little brother!”. Like I said, I don’t know if it makes a difference but I’ve only had positive responses so far.

Thank you for asking the question though, as I’m loving reading all the lovely things about having two boys

I have two nephews and a niece and my niece hates cuddles and dressing up so if that is why people want a girl they'd be dissapointed. The boys are cuddly and much more into socializing with family and wearing nice clothes. My niece would rather sit in her room in her oldest, filthiest jogging pants.

They're all equally lovely, kind and funny of course, but they don't fulfill other peoples prejudgements about gender.

Mine are 17 and 15 and just been so easy. No drama. They get on well (close in age), so holidays etc have been the absolute best times of my life.
It's fascinating as a woman watching them grow as the male experience is so new to me.
I'm not close to my DB at all so I'm hoping my two remain so. For us, two of the same gender has been absolutely the best outcome.

Thank you again everyone for sharing so many lovely stories of having two or more boys! Really helped me put everything into perspective.

And @istheresomethingwrongwithme really appreciate such an honest reply- sounds like you have such a lovely gang going on now. I really resonated with rubbish other women say and know there is only going to me more!

@Isthisfinallyit is right about them all being individuals and not conforming to gender stereotypes. I wrote about some of the more boyish things my two loved to do because for me, that was fun as I was a very quiet, bookish girl. But they also wore fairy wings, asked to have their toenails painted different colours, sang along with cheesy soul and country songs and Abba very happily with me. And they went through the sweetest phase - no idea where it came form, when they were about six of wanting to play 'beauty parlour' (I've never been to one) where they would brush my hair and rub lotions into my feet and hands and face. It was so adorable. Boys are gorgeous.

Two boys here, still quite young, but really really lovely. We are all cuddled up on the sofa on a rainy day here. People always ask if we want to try for a girl, I just say no way am I having another because it would probably be a boy! I always pictured myself with girls, but boys are probably right for me actually. Mine are rough and tumble, best of friends and worst of enemies, high energy snuggle monsters

I know someone who when pregnant with #3 after 2 boys was asked if she was trying for a girl. She pointed out that if she wasn't happy with being the mother of a family of boys she wouldn't have got preg again, because if she found 2 boys 2 many she would definitely find 3 boys too many.
All her boys are lovely. They have their own distinctive personalities and traits and a very loving mum.

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5 boys here,and I'm still alive( just)

People always have something to say.
I found a smart answer to a smart arsed question is great.They don't ask again

And to be fair they do have different personalities,.And they do fight and get physical but they look out for each other

Mine are 4 years apart and are the absolute best of friends. It’s been such a relief in lockdown! Two boys is totally brilliant!

2 boys, 2 girls, boy and a girl. All irrelevant. You love your children no matter what and wouldn't change them for the world.

Three boys, they are fantastic

Congratulations 😊

I have two boys, been an amazing journey, they are just so lovely, I had a very small gap, under two years, my two are 19 & 17 now. They are really close & best friends.

I’ve got 4 boys. They’re brilliant. I’ve been told such rubbish such as:”poor you”; “you must have done something awful in a previous life”; “maybe you just can’t carry girls”; “I hope I’m not on your plane” (at Gatwick). Outrageous. Boys are physically tiring but great fun, straightforward, say what they mean/mean what they say....oh, and they love their mum 😉. So tell the naysayers to sod off.

Glad you are feeling better OP. I thought of another thing I wanted to add - please don't let these feelings take the shine off your pregnancy. Its absolutely fine to feel how you feel, but I did and regretted it. I've let go of that regret now because I don't think there's any point in harbouring negative feelings that have passed, but honestly, you are on the brink of something so exciting and you'll realise that for yourself soon enough.

@Paris14eme That’s awful! I can’t believe you’ve had comments like that. People can be so rude.

I’m really looking forward to having two boys. My DS1 is a total sweetheart. He’s not the type to climb and bounce off the walls, he’s kind, gentle and seriously cuddly. He’s a massive bookworm and loves quiet activities like puzzles and play doh. He blew any stereotypical preconceptions I had about boys straight out of the water (although he is mad about vehicles and trains). DS2 might be the total opposite, which might be a shock to the system, but I’m sure it’ll be great fun either way.

Just to add a different perspective - I have a DD who is 2.5 and does not sit still for a single moment, hasn't yet grown enough hair to tie up (all the boy toddlers I know have gorgeous thick hair and need frequent haircuts), refuses to wear any clothes most of the time let alone pretty dresses, loves messy and rough and tumble play etc. I see absolutely no difference in how the children of a similar age act dependent on sex - it's all about temperament (of course this could/is likely to change as they grow older and societal norms impact their behaviour). So I really don't understand why people express a preference for either sex as it doesn't have any impact on the personality of the child you end up with!!

@Tentativesteps133 you have 1 girl.Shes not 2 boys or more.So really you havent a clue.

I wouldnt go on a multiple girls thread and go on about my 1 boy.Its not the same at all.

Sorry - I was just trying to make the point that people's expectations of what is means to have a girl/boy aren't always what the reality is like...I'll go and leave you 'boy mums' to it

@Tentativesteps133 - those are good points and you are welcome on this thread (and all others). Not sure why your post got that reaction.

I have 2 boys and a fab stepson so a house of three boys. I am the only one in the family on both sides and amongst my friends not to have a girl. I wouldnt have it any other way!

The boys are all very different personality wise but get on brilliantly (most of the time). They are in their teens and twenties now and have nights out together, go to football matches and when they are not all at home have x box nights. They have a whatsapp group with their Dad that I'm not allowed to join because it's boys only!

They rib each other mercilessly and it can sometimes go too far but they are always there for each other. DS2 split up with his girlfriend recently and the other two were so caring and supportive.

It makes me happy to think that as they grow up and when something happens to me, they have got each other.