7 year old watching childbirth videos

[babyinthacorner]

Hi I’m not sure how to approach this. Recently I discovered that my daughter had been looking up pregnancy/childbirth videos on YouTube - we had a new tv and hadn’t managed to set up parental controls yet and she’d come down one morning before we got up. I saw it in the search history and spoke to her about it - just said i’d Rather she didn’t watch them alone and if she had any questions I’d prefer her to ask rather than search YouTube! She said she didn’t have any questions so we left it.
My husband said she’s been trying to use his iPad without asking him and yesterday she hid my phone from me - I think to try and get into it and use it. I’ve now found a couple of webpages open about waterbirth on my husband’s iPad so she’s obviously been searching again!
We’re very open about this stuff and have always answered questions honestly. I just don’t know what to do with this. There are lots of trust issues at the moment anyway - she keeps using things of ours or doing things she knows she shouldn’t without asking so we’ve had so many talks around this. Any advice much appreciated!

You need to get this sorted ASAP. Your 7 year old shouldn’t have unsupervised access to the internet.

Have you asked her why she wants to see the videos?

Just sit down and watch them with her and talk about it. I had a home birth with both of mine, but obviously second time around, my older one was there. We’ve been watching birth videos since she was 3. She loves them and it’s very normal for her. But I only allow it when I can supervise because not all of them are appropriate. I think it’s a very normal curiosity. It just probably needs you to add a bit of adult context.

What mindutopia said.

It's perfectly normal curiosity for your daughter's age.

I totally agree with other posters. Watch one with her, giving an age appropriate commentary, then tighten up the internet access. As for the other behaviours, they sound like attention seeking. Try not to make a big fuss, ask her why etc, just give a short punishment that matches the 'crime' You had internet when you weren't allowed, so you lose xxxx internet time'

With lying I would pretend you don't believe her about something you know is true. When she protests explain you can't trust her word, because she lies and the only way she can regain your trust if she tells the truth. Always worked quickly for me anyway!

Thanks all. I’m going to look up some books later to share with her - and maybe watch an episode of One Born! I forgot how obsessed I was with it so it’ll be fun for both of us
For clarification - she doesn’t have unsupervised access to the internet - there was one time she was able to use YouTube without the parent controls as we’d just installed the new tv and it totally slipped our minds and she came downstairs without our knowledge. Same with the use of DH’s iPad. She never uses the internet without us present otherwise.

I think some controls over what she can access is sensible but I wouldn't worry about this. I'm guessing she's just curious. Watching stuff together isn't a bad idea and I wonder if it would be better if we exposed children to non-sexual nudity, it's just the human body.