I’ve been invited away for a weekend

[Blondebakingmumma]

I have 2 small children and have been invited away for a kid free weekend in the country. To be totally honest I feel really anxious. I don’t want to be a crap friend and not go, but the thought of leaving our kids for a full weekend doesn’t sit well.

I don’t want to leave the kids. Don’t want to be a crap friend.

Anyone else have trouble leaving kids?

How old are the children? If they’re old enough to understand you’ll come back and you’re happy with your partner looking after them, it might be worth thinking about why you don’t want to leave them.

4 and 2. My DH is invited too

Go for one night?

Go they wont remember and will undoubtedly have fun with whomever you leave them with

You mean for after the lockdown, right?

Have you got someone to leave the children with?
Or go on your own?
We have been super cautious but I would go. You need to think of your mental health too.

Just be honest and say you don't feel comfortable leaving the kids.

If you really don't want to go, then don't. I'm not sure I could either just yet. But it depends if you trust who you're leaving them with, if you think the kids will be ok without you and if you think you'll just worry the whole time or if you would really appreciate the time away from them. I would personally enjoy a weekend away but I don't have anyone willing to mind all my kids and my youngest wouldn't cope well without me at bedtimes I don't think.

I’d have killed for a weekend away with DH when the dc were that age, but it’s not going to be a romantic mini break if you’re with friends. And you won’t get the footloose away from real life if you’ve got DH with you. I can see why you’re ambivalent.

I’m in Australia, I don’t think our lockdown rules are as strict as yours. We have on a small amount of active cases in our state, mostly from quarantined arrivals from overseas or cargo ships arriving in port.

I was thinking of booking a separate holiday home and taking family down and either tag team with DH to celebrate with friend or invite a grandma down and both go out, have a good time but return to sleep at same accommodation as kids.

Whose friend is it? If it's dh's maybe just send him on his own and stay home if it's difficult to arrange. Otherwise, if it's your friend, could you go on your own and leave dh at home?

Depending on the logistics and finances, dh and I have also brought a grandparent with us (so we could attend a friend's wedding). Dc stayed at hotel with grandparent and then we returned to the hotel after the wedding (obviously grandparent slept in a separate room). That worked well.

Would you and DH have to both go? Couldnt just you go and leave your children with their Dad?

You don't have to go.

It's incredibly strange the way people insist that doing what you feel comfortable with and being with your own small children is being martyered yet making yourself miserable to please an independent adult is being free and morally superior.