Worrying there is something wrong with my toddler

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I've spent most of today (again) worrying about my little DD who is nearly two. I've been googling and searching on Mumsnet and I've made myself sick with worry. My LO is happy and healthy and I have no real reason to think otherwise.. it's like I'm manifesting on my worst nightmare and cataastrophizing.
My husband thinks I'm loosing it and he isn't worried about her in anyway but I often get it in my head that something may not be quite right and spend hours panicking and reading medical papers. Our family's also have no concerns. She's my first and only child and two years of sleep deprivation probably isn't helping.
Why am I doing this? Does anyone else?
I don't want to feed into this if it's irrational but I don't want to miss getting her help if something is wrong..

What do you think is wrong with her?

What does she do/say or not that gives you cause for concern? Children of her age are quirky little creatures.

She has a bit of a speech delay, slight epicanthal folds. Her teeth seem really tiny and spaced out. She has curly hair and a button nose. I started to fret she might have Williams Syndrome which is very rare and at no point has anything been picked up by any health professionals. She saw a paediatrician at 9 months to have gluteal pits checked out and he examined her throughly and thought she was fine.
She would need a blood test to check this and I don't want to put her through that if this is all in my head. I'm scared to open Pandora's box

She's not even 2 yet so I wouldn't be worrying about a speech delay.. My ds didn't speak till after 2 and now he's nearly 3 he doesn't stop talking! All the other things, like small nose and teeth, if you've had health professionals check over her and say she's fine I'm not sure what else you can do. I know nothing about Williams Syndrome - why is it you think she has this? Are you just googling things and then fitting them to a diagnosis?

Either way it must be awful to be so anxious, but she sounds like a healthy and happy little girl. I'd go back to your gp and raise your concerns again.

I have suffered with anxiety on and off since having my son. He is 20 months old now. I have been so convinced thst there must be something wrong with him on numerous occasions and become quite obsessive about it. But I do think (at the moment at least!) that he is actually fine - just got a big personality and a bit quirky. Toddlers are all a bit weird! Most of my friends have worried that their baby or toddler is autistic at one time or another. I think anxieties like this are quite common. However, it sounds like your anxieties are (as they did for me) taking over somewhat and that's not healthy. If you're going to be anxious and worry until you have definitive proof, then a blood test might put your mind at ease? She sounds delightful. By the way loads of toddlers I know or 2 or almost 2 aren't talking. My son only started saying proper words in the past month or so, and his little friend (22 months old) doesn't have any words at all yet. Googling stuff is the worst... everything can be something!

Epicanthic folds and spaced teeth are quite common in little children.

Thanks for the reply's, I appreciate the reassurance and anxiety is definitely the driving factor behind these worries. I've been back and forth on this particular one a lot (williams syndrome). Before that I was worried about autism and before that it was flat head syndrome and before that I was worried about her spine. I start feeling better and thinking she's fine and then getting scared all over again and hitting google and the medical sites. If my LO did have something, anything wrong heaven knows I wouldn't love her any less. I would just be so worried for her future once she's older and DH and I go.. I don't think we'll be having any more children and I worry about her future a lot. This baby was a long time coming, we tried for six years and were told we couldn't have kids and then 'hey presto' she arrived. Could this be something to do with my lunacy? I want to get over this without antidepressants so bad. She's absolutely gorgeous, prefect and hilarious..

Perfect I mean

I did get past it without antidepressants but I'm not proud of it and probably should have had some sort of medication to help me see tbinfs a little more rationally. If I go through that anxiety with my second child I will see a GP and ask for medication- it's now worth feeling like that and it has a knock-on effect on the whole family. I feel like I wasted some of my son's lovely early life by worrying... but needlessly. I totally understand though.

I understand the anxiety OP and this is going to sound blunt but it's meant with kindness.
Are you a Clinical Geneticist? If not than you are not trained to diagnose Williams Syndrome. Even geneticists would do a blood test to confirm.
I don't say this to be mean but to point out that you can't know, no one would expect you to know, you don't have the training and googling medical papers isn't the same. You could spend time going round and round with this but it's wasted time. This particular responsibility is not on you as a parent. It's not something you need to know to be your little girl's lovely Mum.
Now there are filters in-between you and a geneticist like GPs and paediatricians. You can ask their opinion and the responsibility is on them to decide if your child has enough features to warrant a referral. Again this does not come under things you have to know as a parent. Let the GP/paeds balance the information, they wouldn't send a child for blood tests unecessarily.
Take that medical hat off and shake the weight from your shoulders. Delegate to the professionals. You're a Mum not a medic. Your instinct is important but if you believe anxiety is befuddling you then let someone else either reassure you or refer. I hope you get some peace of mind. It's so tough to worry about our little ones but all too easy, especially when they were a long time coming like your little girl.

I think you need extra support from your gp or speak to someone about self hypnosis or hypnosis. You sound like you need to change your inner dialogue to a more positive one. It wont be long until your lo will start picking up on your anxieties.

Hey OP. You do sound a bit anxious (I am by nature too), but - don’t doubt yourself when it comes to the health of your children. I thought there was something ‘wrong’ with my eldest, my family thought I was crazy, but I pushed her through the health system and I was right. It was investigated properly and dealt with.

What I’m trying to say is - trust your instinct.

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