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Breaking pint/challenging behaviour

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Ginfizz2 · 14/06/2020 20:16

Sorry, Firstly I know I’m not the only one struggling Today I’ve really just had enough. My son (5 years old) is absolutely unmanageable. His behaviour was slightly challenging pre covid but since covid it has been absolutely awful.
I work >full time in the NHS (front line HCP), work has been exhausting however, has allowed some form of normality/support (in terms of seeing colleagues) for me.
I live in a high rise with no outdoor space so days off I’ve been going for lengthy (boring) walks with my son. Still despite walking for miles (>6miles) he’s still wide awake at gone 10pm. My teenage daughter (17) was helping me with childcare (my son was going to school the days I was working but the school day is significantly shorter now due to no wrap around provision, thus meaning she has to manage him for much longer than normal), she’s had enough of his behaviour and has gone off to her dads for the Forseable.
I’m beyond exhausted and am both physically and mentally drained. I’ve had two days where he’s gone to school when I’ve had a day off but I’ve used these days to write an essay I’m mid way through doing.
I have nothing left to give and therefore have zero tolerance towards him. His behaviour is awful but I just don’t know where to start.
My eldest child has ASD (doesn’t live with us) although I don’t feel my son does have this.
I just feel broken. I’ve no idea what I’m going to do about childcare now my daughter has had enough. He would normally go to my (elderly) parents at the weekends I’m working and occasional days during the holidays but this obviously hasn’t Been happening due to covid.
I know I’m not alone I guess I just need to vent and also ask if anyone has some parenting tips they may share?
I’m a single parent and he has no involvement with his ‘dad’ so even that isn’t an option.

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Cupoftchaiagain · 15/06/2020 17:29

Hi OP I’m sorry no one has come along with advice, hopefully this will bump your post for you.

I don’t have any answers, there are days right now I’d happily drop my kids off at the pound! Joking. I think.

Is it just you and him at home now? Logistics, childcare, are u able to get to work? Do u want to talk that through?
I know kids are having a very hard time of it and they are all acting up. We are currently trying just for a little while not to get into any fixed battles, just have everything be as warm and simple as we can for a while and see if that helps. Even if that means saying yes a lot and not very much schoolwork.
Good luck!

Cupoftchaiagain · 15/06/2020 17:33

Ie even when dd is being awful and cheeky we r not trying to get an apology or punish just trying to give space/ empathise/ do something silly.
And a lot of anger management techniques for me because man I find it hard to let answering back go!

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