Toddler and trouble bonding with Baby

[Tonic54]

Hi,

I have a toddler who is very mummy focused, he's been like it since a year old and will always have a strong preference for me over his dad although when I'm not there he's happy and he was settled at nursery.

Obviously with the new baby he has got even more intense, he wants to be cuddling me all the time.

I am trying to spend alot of time with him and alone time but I'm worried I've not bonded with the baby yet-although I do remember not bonding with my toddler immediately either.

How long should I give my toddler to get used to the newborn or just be led by him. Ideally I'd like to do alternate bedtimes with his dad so I can have some alone time with the baby.

You need to keep the one on one time for the toddler long term, but not at the cost of the baby's time.

Alternate bedtimes sounds perfectly fair and a good solution all round. Your toddler needs to bond with his Dad too and this is the perfect opportunity.

Splitting the childcare of both children between the two of you is the best and most fair solution for everyone.