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What do you do when your dc point blank refuse to do as you ask?

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SistemaAddict · 13/06/2020 14:48

Dd has been told for weeks now to tidy her room. She refuses. Her tablet has been taken off her as a result. It's not made any difference except for her to yell at me that it's unfair. She knows how to tidy. She's 11. But she just hides things under her bed. A few months back I helped her clear everything out and it looked really nice. I said she had to keep it reasonable (clothes put away, nothing scattered all over the floor) as I was only helping her the once. It took me hours and my back was killing me afterwards. Since then she hasn't bothered. She doesn't care if it's a tip. There's hamster food and straw spilt on the floor, dirty clothes mixed with clean clothes on the floor, bits of paper, scraps of cardboard from where she makes hamster toys, used drinks glasses. She can never find anything.

If taking her tablet doesn't work then I'm not sure what will. She doesn't have a phone.

Help!

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SistemaAddict · 14/06/2020 14:57

It's still not done so it's going to be bin bag time tomorrow.

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Iggly · 14/06/2020 15:01

As a child I found mess really hard to deal with as I got overwhelmed. It only became an issue when I moved into foster care and actually had loads of “stuff” to deal with.

What might work is giving her a rota. Every day she does a particular chore (with some chores daily) - so every day:
Tidy bed, put dirty clothes away
Monday : tidy desk
Tuesday: tidy books
Weds: tidy clothes away:
Thurs: dust and vacuum
Friday: tidy toys/playthings etc
Saturday: change bedding

Organise her room with her.

I wouldn’t have a pet in her room - no way!

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