Toddler cuddles strangers

[Inch5h3l]

Hi! I went to the park today & my nearly 3 yo went up to a man there with a toddler the same age & hugged his legs! Previously he also sat in the lap of a random man at soft play. Is this normal?? He often says hi to strangers & doesn't seem scared of them.

Hi,

Thanks for taking the time to reply with kind comments 🥰 I've only just read the neglect comment - very unnecessarily mean. Thank god I didn't read it at the time when I was a single Mum with a toddler and young baby and feeling very vulnerable.

My toddler has blossomed in to a beautiful, kind, loving little boy & I wouldn't have it any other way ❤

Reading this made my day. Thank god you didn’t see that comment, I’m happy you are in a better place and your toddler is doing well. Well done mama!

Exactly me too! I have also experienced a little boy hugging me and his parents were so happy when I let him and told them it was okay- as long as they were comfortable I didn’t mind esp if it meant that little boy was happy for 2 minutes. Hate how everyone is so judgmental and ready to throw problems and diagnoses on children that are a absolutely fine

You didn't know what to do?

Hello I don’t know you and I know you may never see this response as the post it self is old, Firstly I need to thank you for your response your comment has literally stopped me crying my heart out I came across it because my daughter is the same as the poster and I was looking for advice…. Reading the comments left me was in floods of tears, thank God it’s 11:49 and my little one is in bed….
The comments was just cruel so cruel and if they could have that effect on me and I didn’t even post it I can’t imagine how the poster felt, I’m at your comment and thank God I kept scrolling until I found yours because had I left reading all those before I’d think I’m neglecting my child and a bad mother because I’ve raised a confident and friendly loved little girl who id literally die for 😭
I’m still in pieces while writing this a mad again I can’t imagine how that mother felt reading so many cruel nasty comments

So THANK YOU for being you and not following the crowd when one is being nasty all don’t have to be nasty you did the right thing creating this account clearly this site needs someone who can think for themselves and not copy and paste a google search and completely destroy a mother

I don’t know you but I think your awesome and I really just want to thank you for your comment BECAUSE if poster didn’t get to read it I sure did and I needed to see it

these people are nasty I can’t believe mothers would say such hurtful words to another mother, we all know how hard it is be a mother we adore our kids and are just looking for advice it’s not a reason for anyone to beat up on anyone

😭just wow man

Thank you from the bottom of my heart

I know I’m late and you might not see this I just want to thank you for even making this post because I can relate so much the comments brought me to tears
the update from you made me smile deeply
I’m so happy you got to see that awesome response and I wish I saw this post before but I wasn’t even a mum then yet😩

@Mum2ElmoFan hi not sure if you’re referring to me? But thank you for your kind comment. I wonder how all the mums with the same issue are doing. Children go through phases of doing the most bizarre things but it’s all apart of our learning and their development. The best thing to do is not expect your child to act like an adult but rather discipline as best as you can and control your own emotions. We do things to please others ie having friends and family like some of these nasty people with multiple degrees in parenting.
have a lovely day

@Mum2ElmoFan your daughter will be fine honestly don’t stress about the small stuff enjoy your time. My son is now 4 all the issues I had disappeared I wish I was less harsh on him I wish I wasn’t afraid of people’s thoughts and judgements. Now he’s going through a different phase and we have to take it as it comes. I suppose this will be ongoing just like for any other human on the planet. To anyone itching to leave hate- address your own insecurities before projecting it onto others. Bashing another mother only makes us feel sorry for the child you are raising.

whilst im on here already to anyone who will come across these posts later Maybe in tears, lost upset or confused like many of us before. Know that your biggest sign of being a good parent is the fact you are here seeking help and advice. You’re trying to help your child, take a moment and realise you’re actually not too bad and parenting as rewarding as it is,is challenging!! You got this

Your response was awesome kya 7 the nasty comments brought me to tears as I’m facing the same things it was you reply to the comments that’s stopped me crying and got me looking at things a different way I needed to thank you
I can just imagine another mum coming across that thread and feeling the same way I did your response was so needed
the lovely messages you sent I needed to read I adore my daughter I tried for years to get pregnant she’s literally my miracle so yes I over react and maybe read to deep into things and over analyse her every move so your message of reassurance hit deeper than you could realise
im glad you made a profile here this place needs a mind like yours

thank you once again honestly

You are most welcome. I was the same at the time of creating the account the negative comments had me stressed but those people have their own issues it’s not us it’s them.
as Long as we try our best for our children we are succeeding. I’m glad you feel better

I'm the original poster, I just wanted to pop in & thank you all for the love & support ❤️ Mum2ElmoFan thanks for resurrecting this thread. Your beautiful daughter is perfectly normal, as is my son. They are just a little more extroverted and affectionate than others, that's it, and there is nothing wrong with that 😊 My son doesn't hug randomers anymore but he will strike up a conversation with anyone, such is his confidence. I have been sure to talk to him about strangers etc. though as he's now 6 & can understand that a bit better. Sending you love & support back 😘

Thank you :) your update made me smile my daughter is very loving very cuddly she thinks everyone wants a cuddle I didn’t have best childhood I was abused so I don’t want her to be so cuddly and want to hug strangers it really makes me tense so reading that your little man grew out of it brings me so much relief I’m learning on the job and my past experiences can cloud my judgment so again thank you for posting this as look even years later you’ve managed to help me

putting the positivity you sent me in a jar and putting it in my pocket