Sad due to child’s lack of friendships ... :/

[HappyMaker]

Hi all. I’m really struggling at the mo and don’t really have anyone to talk to. I’m worried about my 10 year old’s lack of friendships. I am definitely very aware of her positives and negatives but she really is a lovely girl, if a little shy and lacking in confidence. Of course lockdown hasn’t helped. She’s awkward on the phone and has only chatted to a couple of people. However at school over the last year there seem to be have been constant friendship battles and bust-ups and it’s generally her left on her own. Her teacher doesn’t seem concerned and blames girlie behaviour.
I really struggled myself with shyness and friendships (still do really) but I’ve been hugely careful not to let my anxieties be seen. I’m now feeling guilty that I’m to blame in some way and have no idea to fix it. I never want her to feel how I did growing up. It was horrendous. Has anyone been through similar?
Thanks in advance for helping this stressed mummy x

Not that you can do anything about it now, but when everything is back to normal have her join some clubs where she can have friends outside of school.

My eldest DD did, yes.
Had a nightmare in Y5 & 6, HT told
me it is very common in girls.

Secondary school has been a breath of fresh air - she went somewhere she knew no one else which I was concerned about at the time. As it turns out, it was the making of her. She wasn't helped by her primary being small and on a small site, so it was obvious when she was alone. Secondary is more anonymous and she's part of more groups now.

It's horrible whilst it goes on, though, I feel for you.

Thank you. Appreciate your help both. It is a worry x