I want another baby but I'm scared

[Poppy1989]

It's as simple as the title I guess.

My boy is 2 years old and I keep feeling I should have another baby. I want one but sometimes can't imagine not having my son all my time and attention. If this normal?!
To want another baby but be scared?!

This is exactly me atm! Glad I’m not alone.
My DS is 2 and takes up a lot of our time and I can’t imagine having to deal with a baby aswell or even just being pregnant and look after him still. I suppose until your in that situation you will never know/ be fully prepared.
Do you have much support from family/friends? Does your little one go to nursery so you would have a break ?

He was going to nursery as half liked it, but now we have decided to to send him back till next year. I have friends with two children, some with 3 and even 4! They say it's hard work, but never seemed to over think things.
I'm worried I will miss running round the park, or climbing trees, as I will have a new baby to watch. Where at the moment, my son gets all my time and we have such fun. I feel terrible for feeling like this. 😩
I have some family local but they work so don't help much. X

I’ve always thought about waiting a bit longer until DS was nearer school age or started school.
It’s so hard to know what to do for the best.

I worry if I wait longer then I really won't want to have another one as I will be too use to having more time to myself. X

I’ve just found out I’m pregnant this week and being scared about how it will affect DD (20 months) was the first thing I felt when I saw the test. Definitely think it is normal.

I'm in the same boat OP. I'd love my DD to have a sibling but I'm worried about her not having my full attention

Im feeling the same 🙈

I'm pregnant with my second child and am due in a few weeks. DS1 is 20 months old. I feel the same fears as you. To be honest, I sailed through my first pregnancy so I didn't realise how difficult it would be to be pregnant and have an extremely active and lively little toddler roaming round for the second one! At the moment I'm finding it very difficult to look after him and carrying him around is near impossible. Thankfully he's walking well on his own. If lockdown hadn't closed nursery, I'd probably have put him in full time for a few weeks towards the end of my pregnancy and probably for the early days of having a newborn too. However that would have been inxrddonly expensive plus they might not have had space, and also I wouldn't want my oldest to get jealous. However, due to the pandemic my husband is also working from home and nursery is closed so between the two of us we are just about coping. I don't know how we'll manage with 2 under 2 though! We went for two close together because I want to focus on my career again without more maternity leave interruptions and I'm dying to get my body back too without knowing it will all be undone again with another pregnancy. Plua we figured it would be mega hard financially (and in every other way!) in the short term, but there are long term benefits too (they'll only be a year apart at school for instance and can do lots of things together). I don't know what the answer is for you and I think there's pros and cons to every decision like this but that was my thinking anyway! I have a younger sibling only 16 months younger than me anyway who I'm very close to, so that probably swayed my thinking a little as well.

It sounds like you just aren't ready yet. There is absolutely no way I would have considered having another when my first was only 2. They are still very little and high needs then. A lot will change over the next few years and it will be very different. They start developing friendships and a life independent of you. They go off to friend's houses and you might not even see them all afternoon. You get time to yourself again. You get to sleep more again. They can fix their own snacks or their own lunch, etc.

There's 5 years between mine and it was great timing. I'm done having babies now as I only ever wanted 2, but even if I did want another, I wouldn't be thinking about it now (youngest is only 2.5). I think give it some time. Do not just have a baby now because you think you have to do it before you want to do it even less.