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Hi, we have a 15 week old who was doing amazing in terms of development and everything, she was SUCH an easy baby. For the last two weeks she wont nap, she won't go down to sleep at night, all she does is scream and cry and both myself and my partner are getting so depressed about it. We honestly dread the evening as one of us is just sat next to her all night trying to stop her screaming - picking her up won't help, rocking her, shushing her, all she does is scream. She throws up constantly too and her sheets are just coated in sick all the time. She was put to sleep at 7 and she's still screaming now and we are both in tears as we don't know what to do. Please please can someone help us as we are both struggling so much.

Is it possible that she is teething? My DD was like that and at 4 months the front teeth popped out.

Have you tried to give her calpol? If it is teething it might help her out.

Teething? Reflux? Over tired? It’s so hard to know what’s wrong at that age. Just try to stay calm and comfort her. Good luck

@monkeymusicallthetime I will try some calpol now. She's still screaming her lungs out

@SS1987 We think it could be reflux but no doctor will see us because of coronavirus and the health visitor won't help us either, she says its normal but surely it cant be. We watch out for signs from her that she's tired and as soon as she rubs her eyes or yawns we put her down but it's like as soon as we do she's awake again, she's just so unhappy that neither of us can stay calm, we are shouting at one another because we are so upset that we can't do anything for her, its just really hard right now but thank you

I agree with ss1987. Can you hold her and not make any moves to put her down for bed as usual at 7 maybe? I'd be thinking pain of sorts so Calpol definitely. This time will pass x

Well, I'd insist on seeing the doctor. My godson was like this and it turned out to be reflux caused by a hernia.

You know your baby, if she wasn't doing it before and is now, something is going on. Maybe the doctor will do a telephone appointment? Can you call 111 and ask for advice?

@VanGoghsDog two weeks ago when she had her second set of jabs she had a really weird reaction and didn't sleep for nine hours properly (10 minutes here and there) and was so distressed that I called 111 and they sent an emergency ambulance out. She was completely fine on all her vitals and everything and they put it down to her being overtired but surely a baby would crash out at 9 hours of no sleep? I will call doctors again tomorrow and ask for an emergency appointment - I feel so terrible because she's such a happy baby and I feel like such a failure right now

@Skweeler we spend all night comforting her and cuddling her but as soon as she is alone she starts screaming again, even when she is in what we think is a deep sleep she will wake up 30mins later and it starts all over again

thank you so much guys for your suggestions it means so much to me, we don't have any family that will help us, all they tell us is to keep her up until she passes out but she won't do it

Read up about the 4 month sleep regression. I know it started earlier for your baby, but it's give or take. It sounds like it's a sleep regression, and the 4 month one is a big one!

Oh god the 4 and 8 month sleep regression. I actually hallucinated, I was so tired. I hate to say it OP but it's one to ride out. If you go to bed at 8, leave baby with her dad, then he goes to bed at 12 and you take her, at least you've had 4 hours of sleep. If you're able to dad then has baby 6-9 and you get some more sleep.

NB: this works for a lot of people but never worked for me!! Mine would scream til I fed him!

What happens if you breast feed to sleep or cuddle to sleep? Will they sleep upright in your arms? A baby that is screaming all night needs to see a doctor.

Sounds so tough OP. Could be the sleep regression or could be something else. I'd push for to see the GP as it's not good for any of you, especially if she's being sick all the time. I'd definitely try some Calpol as well.

As a PP suggests I'd just give up on bed time. We've had plenty of nights where DS has just sat downstairs watching the news or with us eating dinner because after an hour of crying we used to call it quits. Does she sleep in the buggy or carseat? I once drove up and down a dual carriageway for 45 minutes to get mine off to sleep.

If its reflux the pain will likely come whenever she lies flat, it did for my son. Gaviscon helped massively. Before he was diagnosed he slept ok upright lying on my chest. I had a horrible day of him screaming but got a triage call with gp who prescribed gaviscon.

How did it go OP?

@Letsallscreamatthesistene Hiya, I just phoned the doctors and explained and we are going to pick up some reflux medication this afternoon so hopefully it does something for her. She didn't sleep until 10 and even then she was so restless and upset so we are really hoping this helps her

Thank you so much guys for all your suggestions and hopefully this solves our problem!

Have you considered cows milk protein allergy or soy allergy? My son had awful reflux and it was only meds combined with changing my diet that helped.

What kind of cot is baby in? If it's a next to me style crib then you can tilt them so the head is a little higher. If it's a normal cot some mums have put something under the mattress to raise the head slightly, gravity helps. Hopefully the medicine will kick in quickly. The acid burn in their little throats is awful.