Staying in a toxic relationship as scared to be a single mum

[CloeDee]

Just looking for advice,

I'm not happy in my relationship, my partner is just very cheeky, and unhelpful, I've been suffering from postnatal depression since having my little girl who's now 3 months old, and he just brings me down at the slightest of things, my partner is working from home so the past couple days my we girl has been teething and quite upset, I do all the housework ect but one day I never managed to get the washing hung out as she was being very demanding, he made me feel like the most useless person in the world... when he finished his work he just goes straight on his PlayStation, through the postnatal depression he's just shouted at me for feeling like this and shouted at me to get proper help
I think I've decided I'm not actually happy with him anymore and I do want to leave but I'm just scared to make the move and become a single mum

You already are a single mum in the sense that you are doing absolutely everything for your baby. All you have to lose is him shouting at you.

He sounds vile. I am a single mum and it is the best thing I ever did. It is easier than being with my ex because I don’t have anyone puttme down.

Your first line says it. You are not happy.

You have to speak up to him and tell him how you feel. If he has no intentions on helping you, then you have your answer.

You are both your DC parents, it doesn't sound like his life has changed at all.

Being single is hard yes, but you will have one less major stress if you were one.

What would you say to your lo if she came to you and described the same situation? Youd tell her to run a mile and being a single mum is challenging but far more rewarding being a single mum to 1, than lumbered with an unsupportive man child for the rest of your life.
Think about the bad habits and attitudes she could learn from him. Teenage years are difficult enough without the added stress.
If you stay, continue being miserable and argueing as you are already, she will pick up on this too.

I think you need time apart to think straight. So you have support from your family, friends and the gp?

You are already a single mum

You are a single mum to one baby and one extremely badly behaved teenager.

Luckily you can ditch Kevin the Teenager and your life will then become a million times easier. Ah, bliss.

I was terrified of being single parent when I kicked my ex out, I was 2 months pregnant with our 2nd child and had no idea how I was going to cope.

16 years later I haven't regretted it for 1 minute. Ex has proven over the 16 years that it was absolutely the correct choice.