DS wanting Daddy all of a sudden

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My DS has always been a mummy’s boy through and through , he is a good content happy little boy ( most of the time with a few tantrums in between ) over lockdown I have been furloughed and been off work looking after him full time , whilst this has been amazing to get the quality time , over the last week or so the strains are starting to show , I don’t know what to do with him anymore , I am grumpy, impatient and a bit of a mess with it all and very emotional.

Usually in the mornings my DS shouts for Mummy to get him out of bed etc and just generally wants me , over the last few mornings it’s been Daddy and when I’ve gone to get him out of Bed he’s just shoved away and said Daddy Daddy , ( he gets over this within seconds when he has breakfast )

Gosh this has really hit a nerve for me :( has he picked up on my stress and fed up attitude?

Feeling the mum guilt , guess I just want a handhold haha

My kids have all flip flopped between parents with no regard for my feelings whatsoever. Little adorable jerks.

Its normal. You're doing just fine .

Honestly the first year of DS1's life he barely even acknowledged having a father. Now he loves him - daddy does bedtime, daddy does breakfast, where is daddy, daddy play....honestly it's totally normal and actually quite nice because it means I can have a cuppa in peace!

If I were you I'd just enjoy the peace in the mornings for the time being, because you'll be back to being favourite in no time! Kids flip flop between which parent they want all the time, it's normal.

Ds (3) does this all the time, I’m furloughed at the moment whilst dp has worked through lockdown as normal. Sometimes I’m ds’s favourite and sometimes dp is. Sometimes he wants dp to put him to bed and sometimes he demands it’s me. But he did this before furlough, it’s just more annoying now because I’m the only one here!

If your starting to feel the stress of lockdown maybe try to switch your days up slightly or try and connect with another parent and meet at a local park so the kids can have a little run around together whilst you chat to another parent etc. I did this yesterday (within the guidelines) and felt it made a massive difference for both me and ds.

Sounds normal to me. DD actually seemed to have a slight preference for DH as a baby, more so between the ages of 12-17 months when she learnt to say daddy. Then very abruptly that changed and she started asking for mummy, saying "no daddy!", batting him away and crying if I went upstairs and left her with him. If I wasn't there though she was fine and happy with him . Then a month or so later DH became her primary carer for about two months whilst in between jobs and she seemed to lose any preference for either of us. He started work and she immediately returned to "no daddy!!" and wanting me again and that's been ongoing for about 2 months now. No idea why. I do spend more time with her as I only work 4 days a week but it's only by that one day as we mostly split nursery pick up/drop offs and we are both around in the morning before work. I'm assuming she will change her mind again suddenly and no longer want me hah. I prefer it when she prefers her dad, much easier for me !

All 4 of my children went through phases of preferring one of us or the other. I love when they prefer their dad as I can have some peace. Just be happy your child is happy.