dp's new job means staying away overnight.....finding ds hard work on my own

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dp's new job means he sometimes has to stay overnight....this weekend he is Cornwall. He left at 10am this morning and will be back Sunday afternoon. Last weekend was the first time he's had to do this and i had the weekend from hell (partly because i was ill)........it's ten to six and already ds (2yrs old) is being a pain, simply because he wants daddy. he is refusing to eat his tea, so is mardy because he is hungry. he wants a cuddle but won't sit nicely and keeps throwing his head back and hurting my chin/nose. he's throwing things around the house......and i'm finding it harder because he has also chosen this fortnight to drop his daytime nap.
i think it's hard at the moment because dp is still working his weekday job until the other work brings in enough money to quit the day job. so we're hardly seeing each other and i'm doing the lions share of parenting, whereas until recently dp has really taken charge at weekends so i've felt like i've had a break.
i don't expect any replies i just needed to write this down to get it off my chest.....

aww hun i really feel for u! i get like that sometimes my bf works 12 hour shifts five days a week and sometimes seven! i have three girls, it is really hard going!

oh dear, I know exactly how you feel. My DH works away Mon - Fri and I have a 5 year old and a 15 week old baby. I don't know how I get through the day sometimes...well I do, badly.

You are not alone and there is lots of support on here from people in similar situations.

I hope things get better for you soon and the new venture pays enough so that he can drop the other job and have some quality time with his family.

Have you talked to him about how you feel? I'm sure he is probably suffereing too. I try to put myself in my DHs shoes and how he must feel on a Monday, driving away from his DCs and not seeing them for four days, and it makes my lot seem a little bit better (but not much ).

i have to deal with this all the time as my dp's job can take him away quite often last job was ireland for 3 weeks although ds is used to not seeing him so much as he also works long hours at time also

i know how you feel i want to rant at imes as i feel i need to breathe i do thew parenting at all times and sometimes feel i'm going mad but time out spot has helped if he needs to calm down i put him in time out for 2 mins my ds 2.4 gives me time to calm and him also then i go to him and say ssorry to mummy he has delayed speech so will give me kiss ansd cuddle then i'll find us something fun to do

when he is in bed relax and enjoy peace and quiet

It sounds really hard for you. Ds is the same age and I find the days long when dp has an overnight trip. Is there anyone near you who can give you a hand?

thankyou everyone......my in laws can usually help but they are on holiday at the moment.
my dp does know how i feel, and he hates going but we're in that transition period where he only needs one more gig a week (he's a musician) to be able to wind down the building business. He also has a contract to see out, although the client is very flexible about dp's days (he had yesterday off so we got to spend some time as a family)......

I have so much respect for those of you who have it harder than me....i know when dp is just doing music it will be easier, although we'll have busy times. He's already got most of December booked up so won't see much of him, but he'll have earnt enough to spend most of January with us .
I guess i have some ups and downs ahead of me!

ds is now cuddling nicely and keeps giving me kisses.....

just do your best - don't be too hard on yourself..

Mine's away for 2 weeks from tomorrow . I quite like the peace and quiet actually but I will miss him this time, definitely towards the end when I'm knackered and getting short tempered.

My children are older than your ds but I HATED that thing they did (like your ds) when they throw their head back - we used to call it 'arch back'! I'm sure there must be loads of mums and dads who have got black eyes and bashed noses from toddlers/babies doing that. They do grow out of it in the end, I promise!

ds absolutely refuses to eat his tea without dp here, so this will be second night in a row he'll go to bed with no tea. He just wants biscuits.....but i'm not a soft touch, so he's not going to win on that score!

and my parents have just been round and my dad has got ds amped right up......which is a pain right now but should pay off at bedtime when he'll be shattered from all the running around......