I am sick of my children

[VoluptuaGoodshag]

My entire day seems to be sorting out fights between them - DS is 2.8 and DD is 4. I cannot get 2 minutes to do anything else, leaving them in the room alone results in WW3.

They used to play quite nicely together but now the youngest antagonises DD, she can't deal with it so lashes out with horrible aggression and does that high pitched whining thing. I am worn out just keeping the peace. I try to remain calm and collected, remove them to different rooms they say they are sorry and then it all hits off again 10 minutes later. DD in particular has turned nasty and I've seen her kicking her younger brother, she is totally bossy with him and gets totally wound up if he doesn't do what she asks him. I've tried reasoning with her and explaining that he is young.

I'm sure it's just a phase as they are both still very young. I thought now that DS was at playgroup 4 mornings a week I'd have more patience but it means when they are both together in the afternoon they are more than I can cope with.

Have to go now and sort out another dispute, that was my 3 minutes of peace .....................argggggggggggghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

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Oh I feel your pain! My dc are the same age as yours and although all is peace and loveliness in the garden at this minute it can turn to WWIII in a split second. I started this same thread a while ago though in despair. Loads of people came on and said 'ignore them, ignore them, ignore them' basically only intervene if there is bloodshed and then you can do time out or whatever. It's bloody maddening though isn't it. They were playing really nicely earlier so I decided (foolishly) I would try and watch neighbours (20 mins) It took over an hour and ds had to go on the step half way through before I actually managed to finish it which only goes to show they are attention seeking loads of the time I really, really do sympathise.

I have similar ages to you - 4 (nearly 5) DS and 3 (just)DD. I really empathise with the 'high pitched whining thing' which really really gets on my goat and I usually frogmarch one of them to their rooms then.

I don't have much advice. I have been very bad lately - you sound much more patient than me. I have just given them a couple of chances and them sent them off - been a bit fed up.

Sorry, crap advice.

I would say maybe and perhaps this goes for yours - DS2 (the 5 yr old) has just started reception and DD (3) 5 morns at nursery. Tiredness making it worse???

Either way I'm cracking open the wine soon. Want one?

Oh thank you - do you have a link to your thread. I really need to read it for moral support. It's the high pitched whine thing that really presses my buttons. I'm sure mothers' brains are pre-programmed so that this particular noise gets the worst reaction (as well as attracting all the local hounds)

I just checked on them - they are in cahoots in the garden. Ds wanted to do some watering but can't turn the outside tap on. DD has turned it on for him and now they are 'trying to make a fish tank' - ie drowning one of my flowerbeds. Just to give you the full picture dd is wearing a flowery dress and stripey tights (her choice) a fairy dress, an elasticated tiara, high heeled dressing up shoes, a fake fur pink cape thingy and wellies

hang on, I'll have a look...

I don't think it gets any easier - my 7 year old and 4 year old are like this too.

here it is!

Sorry but I think you do have to ignore it at least some of the time. My DSs are 7 and 4 and if I intervene every time they had a fight I would go mad. It is amazing how often it blows itself out and they are back to either ignoring each other or playing nicely together. Of course if they are really hurting each other then you have to intervene.

And of course sometimes they just drive you mad and you don't want to listen to another squeal yell, whine or moan in your whole life, ever.

I am sure they will all grow out of it in time.

Yes a large red please.

DD is also still wetting her bed at night. We tried (at her request) without the nappy last week and she had two dry nights in a row and was really pleased with herself. Unfortunately each night since has resulted in soaking sheets and PJs. She has got quite upset and says "I've had a wee accident" but both DH and I really don't make a fuss about it. She doesn't want DH coming into the room to see it and she whispers don't tell Daddy even though I've explained that Daddy doesn't mind. Could she be stressing out about that? I've suggested to her that she puts a pullup on again and that she needn't rush herself but she insists on going without. Could also be that her sleep is being disturbed because of it so isn't getting her usual coma type

Well mine are 20 months (dd) & 5 year old (ds) all i can say is thank god ds started school because all they ever do is fight, they don't get on at all, i actually find it very sad at times because they are constantly at each other, ds has been home oh for 1hr & i am at the end of my teather now. I really do feel your pain.

I always remember a wee bit of advice I got from somewhere and it works the odd time I can be arsed.

If they are really bad, maybe jizz things up a bit by playing with them for just 15 mins or summat. Give them your attention for a short while - it might be what they want.

Don't mean to sound all wholesome and I am NOT good at playing with mine, but if things are very bad I will sometimes suggest something

Thanks for the link dances - I am now actively ignoring them.

Shall see how it goes with DD as she seems to be in an agressive streak all to herself at the mo. Have let her stay up an extra 20 minutes so she has me and DH to herself and she can be really lovely then albeit with some hints of attitude which she says sorry for and asks nicely.

I really hate this job sometimes

Me too. The pay's sh*t.