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I just cant cope with dd, she's gonna end up driving me to a breakdown

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mosschops30 · 20/09/2007 17:28

Tonight she's late, so I phone the school to find out if everythings ok (worried sick in case she's lying in a ditch somewhere), they tell me the bus is running late so I think all is fine.

Twenty minutes later I get a call from the school to ask why I havent picked her up I explained I didnt know I had to and said I would be straight over.

Anyway she gets in the car and I said 'dd if you want me to pick you up to have to tell me' she says she did (she didnt), she told me netball trials were yesterday then phoned to say they werent on and came home on the bus, nothing more said and now she swears blind she said they were today. Then she carries on crying and I ask why 'because everybody in my life has died, all my auties and uncles' now I would like to point out here that she is talking about exp's brother who dies before she was born, and my siblings who dies before I was born ffs. Then she complains that shes been bullied in the past (at primary) and how horrible her life is!!!!

It makes me soo angry, she gets 2 holidays a year, goes to guides and private drama school, she is in a excellent school, lives in a nice area.

Why is she like this, its just a long list of things (this morning she chose to stay in bed when dh offered to help her with homework she didnt make the effort to do last night despite being asked several times)

I'm exhausted I cant cope with it anymore, could quite happily walk out the door and never come back

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Wisteria · 20/09/2007 19:17

You are absolutely NOT a shit mum - it's a really difficult time for Mums and daughters. Somewhere along the way we learn to deal with all the hormonal stuff ourselves and forget what it's like to start it all.

Cut yourself some slack too and enjoy your evening with her xx

mammaduck · 20/09/2007 19:26

was going to say if she's 11 it is probably adjusting to being the small fish in the big pond at secondary school after getting to the top of the tree in juniors (sorry, mixed metaphors).

glad things seem more positive, mosschops.

nailpolish · 21/09/2007 12:43

how are things today mosschops?
did you and dd have a good evening?
i kinda feel sorry for her, she doesnt know whats wrong so she blames it on daft things like "hurt my chest in gym"
bless
and you sound frustrated cos you dontknow what to do...? i hope you did have a good night. and both of you feel better
does she have good friends?
someone mentioned evening primrose - not sure if thats ok for children - if so give it a try, at least til her periods settle down maybe. i dunno, my dds are only 5 and 3, i have all this to look forward to
but i do remember feeling like this when i started high school - i can really relate. i didnt knowwhat was wrong with me either

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nailpolish · 21/09/2007 12:44

gosh that waffled on a bit sorry

39andcounting · 21/09/2007 12:59

Nailpolish u beat me to it ! How was your evening mosschops. Did you enjoy each others company ?

Holland and barrett staff looked up the evening primrose and completely ok to give to kids. It is also used to help kids with their attention span, think they said either adhd or autistic, but dont quote me.

mosschops30 · 21/09/2007 13:53

thanks np and 39.

Yes things took a turn for the better last night, she had a nice big bubble bath and then I let her choose a colour for her toes and painted them, she was very chuffed with that as its not something we'd normally do.

I think she feels better now knowing that its ok to be angry/moody/weepy for no reason and also to say 'that its for no reason'. I guess I just forget how hard it was to be dealing with all that emotional stuff.

Once again thank you for your support

p.s. will definately try the evening primrose oil stuff, I have to go to the health shop tomorrow anyway to get some vitamins so will ask whilst im there

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Fizzylemonade · 21/09/2007 16:28

I was just going to try to help about the giving her a lift and after-school stuff.

Maybe you could get a wipe board for the kitchen and write anything important on there. Then you can both refer to it on the morning so you know you are both singing from the same sheet.

I think when you are a teenager I think you try to justify the weird feelings you have. So maybe she could just say she feels out of sorts instead of trying to come up with reasons as to why she feels how she does.

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