Any help please re toilet training and nursery.

[Arransmummy]

My little boy is 2.2 yrs and goes to nursery once a week. For the past couple of months we have been on the toilet training mission. He is now dry and clean during the day and has been for the past 4 weeks. My problem is that when he goes to nursery he always seems to have accidents. There has only been one week in the last 4 when he has stayed dry all day at nursery. Does anyone have any ideas about why he could be doing this. As I say he has not had any accidents away from nursery.

Please help!!

Maybe he is just too busy having fun to remember to go . I think i would have a word with he nursery and see if they can take him (say once evry hour) to see if he needs to go.

Dd1 started nursery half way through potty training, i sent her in pull ups until she got the hang of asking to go to the toilet/potty.

Thanks marne - I think it is the fact that he is too occupied. I'll have to ask the nursery to ask him more often. I think they just wait for him to ask for the toilet. I don't want to revert backto pull ups as i feel he might get too used to them.

Thanks

he will get it (my ds is in the same position) but it is just really hard for them as the day is often too structured for them to wander off and go to the loo when they need to. They need to learn how to ask or to try and go when they are asked. This is much much harder than leaving a truck and wandering over to the potty. Lots of children have done it so i guess ours will soon

We are in the same boat here - DD (2.5) has been potty trained for about 4 moths now (dry and clean except the occassional accident when too busy playing). However: She never asks to wee so it is always us sending her to the potty and when she is doing something interesting, she is stubbornly refusing to go, even though she obviously needs to .
Which is where our problems start with the nursery - she is always doing something interesting, so even if the teachers ask she refuses to go. She only goes two mornings a week so we make her sit on the potty right before she goes and the results are pretty random - sometimes she holds it for the whole 3 hours and she only wees when she gets home, sometimes she has an accident. But she hasn't yet managed to wee on the potty in the nursery
I don't really want to put her in the pull-ups but it may be the only option until she starts asking. Any experience/advice would be appreciated!

Hi ladies. Your nursery should work with you on this one- often the childrn ARE too occupied to ask but equally the staff should make time to take the children to the loo at least once or twice a session(every hour might be a tad impractical!)

We keep a stock of spare clothing & just quickly change them if they have an accident but often just keeping an eye out for the warning signs &get them there quickly (you know that grabbing crotch & jigging aroound dance they do )

"No don't want to go ....no DON'T want to go.....er too late...oops"

If you DO go for pull-ups get the training ones not the nappy strength ones. The training ones aren't quite as absorbent so they know they've been. But TBH you night as well keep going as tehy'[ve cracked it at home. Won't take long!

Thanks BB,

We asked the nursery to put her on the toilet at 10am and see - first day it worked (I think she may have been too impressed by the nursery teacher to refuse )
Let's see if we carry on like this...

fingers crossed Yanka!