What silly things have you been reported to social services for

[hellena37]

A few days ago, I received a letter from social services stating they had information about my kids and asked me to get in touch ASAP. I rang them and was informed that someone reported me for throwing out furniture they gave me and therefore feared that my house was unfurnished. They said they wouldn't take any action as it seemed minor. I knew exactly who had reported me. I wrote him a letter and told him never to turn up at my house again.
What petty things have you been reported to social services for?

Ohh now my dsis has been reported to ss loads of times (shes 17). Once because a teacher saw someone dsis knew at school smoking weed in the street. Dsis wasnt present but because she knew the person she was guilty by association apparently so dmother got a phone call. Then her school reported her to ss again because a classmate of hers accused someone she also knew of commiting a crime despite the alleged victim saying it never happened the school called the police and ss and dsis was told she was guilty by association even though the police confirmed no such crime took place. When she was younger at youth group(aged 8) a couple of 15 year olds asked her if she had ever had sex. She said she didnt know what that meant and the youth worker reported her to ss and not the 2 teenagers who had this conversation. Same woman also reported dsis for having a gun. A fucking gun. When she was 8. She also claimed dsis was prone to violence. If it wasnt so serious it would be hilarious. Dsis is the most meak timid girl who is scared of everyone. The irony was the woman who reported her had 2 daughters who were known bullies.

Er what ryan? I think you’ve got the wrong end of the stick here... children aren’t reported to social services.. they aren’t the kid police! Concerns can be raised but that’s different.

Its obvious what i mean. People have called social services and gave my sisters name a few times. Every single time ss have agreed with us the claims are bullshit. In fact she got visited twice and 2 different social workers were stunned to meet her after being told to expect the opposite of her.

Surely you have to be already known to social services for them to send you a letter about something so trivial?

I got a random text message once thanking me for a great night together.
Me being me I replied saying I didn't know who they were but they had a wrong number. We got into a back and forth for a while. When I decline a date he threatened to report me to SS. Apparently I shouldn't have been texting men if I had children. Even though he also (apparently) had a DD.
Not sure what he was going to report. He knew my mobile number, that I lived 'near' London and had 2 dc

Not me personally but my friend had a letter from Social services asking she make contact and when she rang they said that they’d had several reports that she’d left her young toddler in the car alone, parked on a busy road while she’d been sat inside her house. The reality was she had left her toddler asleep in the car after the weekly shop, which was parked on her gated driveway, off a quiet road while she unloaded her shopping!

Reported by school because "DS said he hasn't had a bath for two days"

Aye. He'd had showers instead.

they’d had several reports

If this is what SS said then that means there was more than one person who was concerned about what they saw. I’d take your friends version with a pinch of salt tbh. People rarely tell others the full story when SS are involved. They usually downplay it.

I am amazed that SS get involved in such seemingly minor issues, I had a genuine concern about a child through a volunteering role I was involved with and it was a nightmare to report it, no one seemed interested - it was regarding a very young girl allegedly living alone with someone who said he was a relative, he was an alcoholic and knowN drug user, I went round and round in circles trying to get someone to take it seriously.

@ragwort its really weird isnt it?! My dsis has been reported loads and they always said they were ridiculous and malicious reports with no further action required but told us they had a duty to double check before signing the case off. Yet my friend is currently looking after her nephew who has been treated shockingly by his dm to the point her behaviour is boardering on needing to be sectioned yet ss are not responding to any of friends calls or emails. Its so weird.

Reported by school because "DS said he hasn't had a bath for two days"

What?

Most of these did not happen though

@ChandlerIsTheBestFriend when they said several reports I believe it was the same person phoning on different occasions (friend has a good idea who) not reports by several people.

I’ve been to my friends house many times, it’s definitely not on a busy road and even if it was she’d have no reason to park on it and leave her toddler in the car when she has a large, gated drive way. Maybe she’s downplaying it to me and actually she put the shopping away and then left him to finish his nap, in a locked car on her drive way? Even so I don’t think it meets the threshold for social service intervention, and clearly it didn’t as there was no further action after she explained the situation on the telephone.

#Ragwort my experience of SS is that the service you get really does vary from person to person. Something that one person finds concerning, another thinks isn't important
And I've sat in meetings with SS where they have blatantly lied.

I'm not sure I get the point of this thread.

Some people make malicious reports?

SS are over zealous?

I make referrals to them quite regularly. Sometimes they get taken up, sometimes they don't.

I don't know anyone who has been reported for anything am I in the minority?

School reported me to SS because DS said I'd hit him on the cheek with a spatula (hitting on the head is illegal in Scotland). In reality, we'd been prancing around the kitchen having a fencing match with two wooden spoons and no-one had got hit at all.

It was actually pretty horrible and really damaged my relationship with the HT.

You seem to associate with extremely odd people 🧐
I've never known anyone reported to social services at all, let alone multiple times for malicious purposes.
Think about the company you keep.

Erm nothing, not my friends as far as I'm aware. I think they're a bit busy to be dealing with trivial whit anyway.

Think about whether you're victim blaming, Shine.

Victim blaming? No, I don't think so.

What that directed at me Shine?

No, I was replying to Sardine

I don't know anyone who has been reported for anything am I in the minority?

You and me both.

I meant your first post Shine about associating with extremely odd people?