Play him at his own game or not?

[Singlemum31]

Hi all, bit of background broke up with ex after Xmas, is a waste of space and useless has a dad....... He got himself a place thur mummy and moved in promising to be a changed man for the good 😂he has had our girls three times in the last month, he attempted a sleepover but rang me me constantly and I had to go pick them up in the end 🙄he was spose to have them today but has sudden come down with sickness 🙄in other words he was drunk last night and can't be bothered today..... He said he will have them tomorrow instead........ Now I'm in two minds. He said he was 'sick' so I might say we'll don't want the girls to get sick tomorrow so no to getting them. But am I just starting with games by doing this..... He just gets away with everything...

Well don’t let him contact he’s not worth the time and space. Then he’ll whinge when the children hare older he never saw them but that’s what all useless dads do.

"You either keep to a schedule or you fuck off. They're not toys".

He won't listen to any talk about setting a schedule, works for himself and if he has work, that comes first. There's no talking to him.would love to block him from all of our lives but for some reason my girls love him. He does fuck all for them, he is fun dad for 5mins then he gets stressed and just hard work. Has used lockdown for an excuse not to pay maintenance aswell. Gosh I hate him 😡

The only thing you should consider:
Do I want some free childcare?
If yes, then let him have them.
If you have alternatives then yes, you can play games like does. Why should you be a better parent than he is?

Why should you be a better parent than he is?

Because someone needs to be a decent parent.

Id try to be flexible with him for the sake of your kids relationship with him TO AN EXTENT. If he starts pissing around and cancelling on days that you've specifically rearranged to suit him then id be having none of it. He rearranges and sticks to it like an adult, or nothing. Also, as he works for himself I assume he manages his own time and working day, which should be easier for arranging childcare around, not worse.