grandparents stink of smoke

[CloeDee]

So I'm a first time mum and quite overly anxious about the health of my little girl,

I'm worried about Cot death and the increased risk second hand smoke brings, me and my partner both don't smoke however my mum and step dad do, my we girl was only a few days old when we went into lockdown so before hand we decided to move into their house till this was over for help and support

They don't smoke in the house but they still stink of it, they will smoke in the garden and I've noticed when they pick my little girl up they still have their smokey jumper on and don't wash their hands, how do I say to them I want them to take some precautions when picking Ava up and whah precautions should they be?
feeling a bit anxious about offending them

I would ask them to wash their hands after a fag and to put on a particular coat when smoking so they can take it off after having a cig. This is what I do with my
Smoking parents.

I don’t think your dd is at risk from a smoky jumper/hands - that’s not how second hand smoke works!

It’s up to you if you say anything but it could seem a bit precious. My PIl’s smoke and we always joke about how everything that comes from their house stinks of fag ash and fried food! They gave dh an expensive jacket as a gift and he had to put it outside to air for a week (still stunk though!)

I wouldn't care a bit about offending them. Second hand smoke is dangerous and the smell of cigarette smoke is fucking disgusting. If they don't change their clothes and wash their hands, they don't hold the baby. Conversation over.

@Haggisfish
Yeah that's a good idea thanks very much!

@Bleepbloopblarp
They do smell quite bad though they must smoke about 40 a day between them I think , the smell of it just lingers dosnt it

@Aquamarine1029

Yeah I will just have to be straight to the point!
The funny thing is my mum and step dad stopped smoking for years and never smoked when my little sister was born,anyone who came over to the house was to smoke outside, wash hands, take off smokey jacket/jumper and my little sister didn't go to relatives houses who smoked for the first yearish so I hoped they would do the same as they expected people to do around my sister

My ds was 7 week premature. I was very aware my mum who was a heavy smoker always stank of smoke. Ds has a little cough. I told her the doctors said it could be damaging to ds's premature lungs and could she change her top and wash her hands. It was an uncomfortable conversation but she did what I'd asked.

@bleep unfortunately it is exactly how it works. The risk is very definitely there with second hand smoke.

You have to just be honest and say what you want them to do,it's really tough I've been there caused a few heated discussions but keep at it it's the only way to get your point across . You and OH need to say the same thing as if not again it's tougher
It's hard as thier house but it's you child health so don't feel bad
Make it's easy for them to do . Buy them an outdoor smoking jacket ,put hand sanitizer at the door . Keep your DD away from them straight after they have come in from smoking. I would keep mine out of certain rooms and sorry you just been smoking you can hold .... Etc
Once you have a plan it's easier to do .
Good luck

Smokers in the house hold is a risk factor for SIDS so definitely talk to them, imagine how you'd feel if the worst happened and you hadn't talked to them.
Agree with the above poster get them a smoking jacket, although hand sanitizer wouldn't work as the toxins and carbon monoxide isn't a microbe so won't be affected. official advice is change clothes and wash hands properly at minimum, ideally quit smoking.

www.lullabytrust.org.uk/wp-content/uploads/fact-sheet-smoking.pdf