5 year old - Stropping, being rude, attitude

[Whattodowhattodooo]

Yes, she's 5. Yes, she's being an absolute cow. Yes, she's had a lot of upheaval over the last 3 months. Yes, she's probably feeding off my stress and anxiety.......

But jesus.... I can't handle her anymore. If I say no to anything I get stomping on the most extreme level. Doors slamming. Screaming at me. Uncontrollable sobbing (no tears). This also happens if I don't do what she asks that very second. She's like a 16 year old.... With extreme PMT. This isn't in phases throughout the day. It's non stop.

DH says we should cut her some slack because of her everything going on, but he buggers off to work everyday so doesn't have to deal with it. I do, whilst juggling a 10 month old and wfh.

I'm seriously at the end of my rope and don't know what to do with her. It's really shocking.

Is she getting a good strong routine and enough exercise?

@FortunesFave

Plenty of exercise and as I'm a key worker she goes to school one day a week when I have to be in. Unfortunately due to the hours needed throughout the week a strong routine isn't an option 😔

What do you mean "due to the hours needed"? Do you work on other days but someone else looks after her? Who is looking after her on the days she's not at school?

Solidarity Sister! I could have written your post.

What consequences for these dramatics?

If you are confident she's just making a scene for the sake of it, ignoring it is your best option. Ds occasionally does this. I tell him I'm sorry he feels upset but x, y, z is not an option and then leave him to get on with it. He's a bit older though so it's easier to know that he understands.

But broadly, where possible, I think tantrums should be ignored. They want you upset and begging to do whatever. Let her tantrum while making it clear that once she's done you'll be happy to play/do whatever was on the cards etc.