Anyone else with a child aged 5+ with a raging temper?

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DS is constantly flying off the handle into a rage when he's frustrated, disappointed, etc. He screams at us, growls, threatens, slams doors. It can go on for ages.

I've tried to give him some tools to help stay calm, take a deep breath, ask for help, a cuddle, take time alone etc but once he gets started, there's no stopping.

When he gets to a point where he's being violent or name-calling, he gets 5 minutes in his room, as our mere presence seems to just fuel him.

It's not lockdown-related, as he's been like this for ages. But certainly as we are with him more, we have to deal with it more.

Anyone else got a similar issue? We're going crazy. Thanks.

My DSD, 8, gets like that. My DP's way of dealing with it is to ignore her. She soon gets bored and turns back into the nice child that we love. She throws the fits so that she can get her own way, but realises at our house that she won't win. When she has calmed down, DP will talk to her about her behaviour, etc. Seems to work much better.

Of course, in the moment is drives me absolutely insane and I can't understand how she reached that stage. But DP knows her best and she certainly isn't flying off the handle as much as she used to xx

Thanks for your response!

Sometimes I think my DS is too old for screaming tantrums so it's reassuring to know he's not the only one. It's hard to know what is normal, not being able to spy on other families at home!

We do ignore occasionally if he just won't stop going on and on about the same thing, but he really is relentless. He'll follow us, screaming the place down

I so sympathise!

Honestly, she doesn't always get a grip and it can go on for a while. If we are out and she kicks off, I find it so embarrassing - she's 8 for goodness sake!

My DP will ensure she understands consequences to her actions. E.g. if she has asked him to play with her and then throws a tantrum about something, she does not get played with. She will have technology removed too.

To be fair, I have no idea how my DP stays as calm as he does. He really is a saint!!

I'm sure you are doing an amazing job in the circumstances. Keep persevering! xx