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Comparison Anxiety -baby's flailing arms!

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fonxey · 16/05/2020 09:20

Hi,

Since this lockdown I've had anxiety-overload not having proper contact with other parents in my local area.

I've fallen into the trap of comparing. Me and 2 other people i know fit pregnant ap all had our babies within a week of each other. So it's very easy to compare and i worry.

My daughter is 5months old very nearly. The other two babies just seem so far ahead. One is already weaning though blw.

Both of them are giggling and laughing. Mine isn't. One can sit up... But I'm not overly bothered about that yet as i think she's getting there in a way.

But she's not able to really good things properly. She grasps things with one hand and waves them about but she seems very uncoordinated with her arms they just move around in different sections directions. Although i do see her trying to use them both together occasionally but they don't do what she wants them to.

She can't move toys from one hand to the other (as other hand flying the opposite direction) she doesn't put anything in her mouth to chew. But if something wanders close to her mouth she licks it like a cat. She does chew her hand (normal) bit nothing else other than dummy.

The other babies are squealing and making all sorts of noises and all she sits is blow raspberries and go gggghhhhhhh. She used to be a lot chattier but is now obsessed with raspberries and ghhhhh.

She's been smilng from 8 weeks but they seem more restrained. She smiles at us when we smile but I'm never sure if she's having fun as she doesn't smile a huge amount. They are fleeting. My OH disagrees though.

And when she does smile she always sticks her tongue out with it. Is this normal? I've never seen it better. I mean obviously babies stick their tongues out a lot.

I had an anxiety meltdown a few weeks ago about her not rolling and the next day she bloody rolled over so I'm hoping following this post she'll have a similar revelation about her arms.

Apologies for typos. I try to catch most of them. Bloody phone/finger.

I hate comparing. I know babies develop at their own pace and you shouldn't. But I'm just so worried she's not doing as she should by whatever it is standards!

And I hate that i can't really talk properly with someone. But there it is. Bloody virus has a lot to answer for.

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ZooKeeper19 · 16/05/2020 16:36

Hey OP, sorry you feel so alone due to the lockdown, it is hard on all so try not to stress more than necessary :)

As for your LO, she feels like a perfectly normal 5mo and does what they all do. My one did not even turn at that age, and as for weaning the guidance to wait till 6m is there for a reason. It might not do any harm, who knows, but why risk it if not needed.

What I'm trying to say is if your LO is happy, and you are enjoying each other why worry? The time goes so fast, enjoy her grrrr and the fact she stays where you put her rather than wonder off somewhere dangerous and just be there for her. All she needs is you really, and that makes her happy and healthy baby :)

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