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Anyone struggling at home with small children?

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Idtwins · 14/05/2020 16:33

Hi all,
I’ve 2 year old twin boys and I am just struggling at home. I’m used to being home 3 days a week as I work part-time but I’m now furloughed so home all the time and husband still working 4 days a week. So I’m doing 4 days on my own, which isn’t a great jump from 3 days but I am just getting so worn down. The small tasks are now starting to feel like big tasks and I feel like I have just lost all resilience to even handle 2 toddlers. They are generally well behaved but are both climbers/ risk takers so need constant supervision. Also they no longer nap with don’t even have that to break up the day. Tv is on a lot more than I would like which I feel awful mom guilt about. Please say there’s others in same boat!

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Em1151 · 14/05/2020 16:39

Yes definitely in the same boat, though I only have one active toddler so I think you’re doing great! It makes it a lot harder not being able to go out. Try not to feel guilty, I think a lot of people are struggling with this too. Be kind to yourself, hopefully the measures will be start to be lifted and things will get a bit easier

PulpHorn · 14/05/2020 20:14

Same boat, the napping was on and off but has completely stopped since the start of April. I'm sure a lot of people feel like this. My DD has nursery 3 days a week but we'd do playgroups on my week days off so we were quite busy

PawPatrolMakesMeDrink · 14/05/2020 20:18

Yeah. My almost three year old had driven me to distraction. I think it’s a combo of work/pregnancy/lockdown/childcare.
I’ve had a really bad day today, we’ve both cried.

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CoodleMoodle · 14/05/2020 20:21

I'm sure you're doing a great job. I've got a calm, sensible but extremely sensitive 6yo and a maniac not quite 2yo, and it's HARD. If one of them is happy the other is usually moaning about something, or needs help. Naps have been getting shorter and shorter and that's not fun either, because DS is either wired or falling asleep in his dinner, and DD is getting even less time with me than usual. Homeschooling is practically non existent because I can't effectively teach her and entertain him at the same time! Lots of TV/screens, but balanced with walks and garden time if we can. The walks are the only thing keeping me sane, really.

DH is WFH upstairs and the only respite is that he's "home" 90mins earlier than normal!

If they're both still alive by the end of the day, you're doing fine. But I do understand how tough it is

Mmmmycorona · 14/05/2020 20:25

Yes, feeling the same. I’ve got an almost 2 year old. Had been managing fine but this week I’m struggling. We’ve exhausted our list of activities and I’m pregnant and have zero motivation. Feel like an awful mum at the moment.

Grumpos · 14/05/2020 20:47

Yup feeling like I’d run away if there was anywhere open to actually go to...

Toddler so clingy but also doesn’t want to be helped in anyway, screams at everything, throwing food, humongous poos because he’s teething - just hard work from morning till night (we have some lovely moments but they are BRIEF)

Baby non stop whinging and moaning, needs to be fed to sleep, won’t nap without help.

I can’t get anything done. Can’t get 10 minutes to myself.

I used to be glamorous and have a career. I used to wear make up and heels and have beautiful hair.
Now I am lucky if I shower and my clothes have some semblance of coordination.

Love my children, goes without saying. But I feel like a prisoner in my own life at the moment.

peajotter · 14/05/2020 21:10

I have a 2yo shadow. I am going slowly insane. I have been at home with the kids for 10 years now and I was desperate for her to start playgroup and give me a break, finally. I’m done with jigsaws, baking and having a helper. I want to do things on my own. In silence.

Instead I have all the kids five days a week. I know many have it worse but I’m really struggling. The school age kids are ok but the toddler will not stop talking. Unless I try to get her to talk on Skype to her grandparents.

firstimemamma · 14/05/2020 21:14

I have ONE toddler and am finding it hard! You're not alone

Cabra82 · 15/05/2020 04:29

Yep- almost two year old twins and it is really hard. They were due to start nursery at the start of corona so that took out the light at the end of my tunnel! The only way to make the day bearable is to do the min of housework (ideally none if I can get away with it) and get outside for fresh air each day. But it is definitely absolutely knackering and soul destroying- feel like a bad mother for not being more patient and enjoying their company, but when they are grumpy, throwing tantrums from teething etc it makes me feel so frustrated and lacking patience! Just hope nurseries open soon! Good luck everyone

leasedaudi · 15/05/2020 12:20

I'm just the same with a newly nap-refusing two year old and I only have one!!! He's so high energy and defiant and i just wish we could have a break from him for half a day!! As much as we love him this has been really testing.

GoatsBroccoli · 15/05/2020 12:31

Yep, lone parent to a 4yr old and a 2 Yr old. I am absolutely worn out

India999 · 15/05/2020 12:37

I'm a first time mum to a 5 month old... Really upset now, been crying most of the morning, feel like I can't do it anymore and just want to be able to see someone and ask if I'm doing it ok. I know I'll feel better soon but the prospect of at least another two weeks without any support is horrifying. I don't know what to do.

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