Chores for a 4 year old

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I’m now getting my 4 year old to make her own bed. Double duvet so she struggled before. I’m keen for her to be part of the family in term of jobs in the house. What do your 4 year olds do?

Some days she Sets the table. Clears the table. Helps clear the car (it always seems to be full of a gazillion toys)

Everyday she Makes her bed. Tidies her own room. Helps me tidy her playroom. Takes her things upstairs.
At this age it's mostly about tidying up after herself rather than helping with general household chores.

Brilliant. Thank you this is what I thought. She can be great at helpful but has been a reluctant tidier.

Chores for a 4 year old! I mean some little kids like to help for fun and that’s cool - but I certainly wouldn’t be expecting anything of a toddler!

4 is hardly a toddler. They start school at 4. Of course they should be expected to tidy up after themselves.

My 3yo has jobs which he does himself

Own toys away
Makes own bed
Own laundry in basket
Own rubbish in bin
Gets own drink/snack
Feeds cat (his choice entirely - he freaks out if anyone else does it )

However I also get him to help out with other things like:

Putting shopping away
Cleaning the car
Doing laundry
Vacuuming/floor cleaning
Cooking

He obviously doesn't clean the house top to bottom in half an hour but he has a decent understanding of how to maintain a house which can only be a good thing.

My 4 year old helps with
Clearing table
Setting table
Tidying toys
Hoovering (she loves that
Watering plants/flowers
Weeding
Emptying dishwasher (she does cutlery)
Cleaning car (loves that too)

She loves getting involved - IME if you make it fun and not a command children will love helping with chores (eg let’s clean the car together, you are in charge of this ect vs you have to help me to clean the car)

Just tidying up after himself really. Tidying away the toys at the end of the day (I help) and putting dirty clothes in his laundry basket. Putting empty food wrappers in the bin etc .

Mine used to pair all the socks. And yes, make own bed etc.

Also, carry own school bag and put packed lunch things in sink.

Put milk bottles out for milkman
Put wrappers in bin
Started recently to feed the cat with supervision
Put dirty clothes in basket when taken off
Put toothbrush in sink after I've chased her and her DSis round to brush teeth
Helps a bit with cooking sometimes

Her room is a shit-tip

DD turns 4 at the end of the month. She has the following 'chores' some require more coaxing a s supervision than others.

Makes her bed and opens her curtains in the morning.
Puts all dirty laundry in her hamper.
Assists with loading the washing machine.
Hands me pegs when I'm using the the washing line.
Helps set and clean the table at meal times. (Loves wiping the table)
Puts rubbish in the bin and recycling in the recycling box.
Helps pair clean socks to be put away when I'm folding laundry.
General one about tidying her toys away after she has finished with them before getting something new out.

4 is not a bloody toddler!
Little jobs and responsibilities are good to teach at this age. When they start school they will be expected to muck in and tidy up/do jobs etc.

In my classes it has always been glaringly obvious which children have never had to lift a finger at home.

At 4 mine would make his own bed. Tidy up at the end of the day (with all of us). Put clothes in the washing machine.
At 8 he can make his own breakfast- I pour out milk, puts in the microwave for cereal and he can make toast. Does this for him and his sibling. He makes his own bed. And still helps with tidying up at the end of the day.
When he comes in from school he has to put bag, coat away, take out homework (pre COVID of course) and put his lunchbox in the sink.