9 month old advice needed please

[Letsbekindplease]

Hi there.

I've recently went back to work and my DH is looking after our DC. She is 9 months old and has been in her own room for about a month. Seems to be going really well... Until recently...

Our routine is
Awake between 6am and 7am
Nap 9.30am/10am for 2 hours.
Afternoon Nap between 2pm and 3pm sometimes even 4 if he fights it for anywhere between 30 mins to an hour.
6pm we bath, bottle and chill out before bed time about 7pm.

It can be a hit or a miss. She e has been fine up until 2 weeks ago where he just seemed to scream the house down as soon as we put him down. Wanted cuddles. She didn't seem too tired so my partner would then stick to the same routine but keep him up a little longer for wind down time which seemed to be working.
I've recently started back work. I works as a nurse so my shifts are 12 hours. I don't get into our house until after 8pm. Our DC was awake, screaming the house down. Just didn't seem to settle. Calpol and nurofen given, reassurance given. Teeth have been bothering DC but I can't help but think it's something else. DC sleeps the full night so I can't complain, but I just hate this phase of the screaming. It's really sad cry. I wish I could read DC mind to understand. Any advice what I could do??? It's a hard one.

Slightly confusing use of pronouns, but teething (more painful when lying down) and a developmental leap along with missing you seems likely. Room too hot/cold, too light/dark, uncomfortable clothing/bedding. How's her relationship with your partner?

Sounds like she's adjusting to you working and this has coincided with the 9 month sleep regression.

Sorry, I was so tired last night after work that I really didn't have the energy to proof read lol. I re-read it and I'm feeling slightly embarrassed today.

We have a fantastic relationship. Really good.

Her room was pretty warm last night and she has a sleepsuit and a 2.5tog on. I need to get a cooler one. They are really hard to find at the moment unless ordering online.

I think I was just feeling really drained with everything and now that she's started this crying for an hour it's been hard

If you think she's too warm, you could use the same sleeping bag but with just the vest and nappy instead of the sleep suit or do you have any summer sleep suits?

Does she settle if you give her more milk?

John Lewis have some reasonably priced 1.0 tog sleeping bags OP
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Wondering if this is an developmental thing as I have a 9 month old DS and having the same thing and our routine is identical to yours. We used to rock to sleep until we sleep trained for night time so I thought it was that after a bout of teething and cuddles. But eventually he will lay down awake and go to sleep on his own. He just needs cuddles on and off and by 9 usually will sleep through til the morning. I’m not back at work yet but will be soon.

Nothing helpful for you sorry, just to say you aren’t alone. Hopefully this passes !

Have you tried the Huckleberry app. It's free and gives you sweet spots timeframes for naps. We're a week into logging our data and can look back and see what does/doesn't work.

Be careful of the room temp, it's better for them to be on the cooler side.

Bella there is a sleep regression at 9 months. Normal service sound resume shortly