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6 year old DS1 with Autism

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MumOfTwoBoyssss · 07/05/2020 20:16

Just plain short a simple really, my DS1 keeps telling me and his dad to "shut up" or "go away" when we tried to either tell him or explain something to him or ask him a simple question, any too of what to do or say back as so far we just look at him in shock
Thanks for your help in advance

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MumOfTwoBoyssss · 07/05/2020 20:17

I meant any tips*

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Littlefish · 07/05/2020 20:22

It sounds like he is overwhelmed. You probably need to lower the demand load on him. This is much easier said than done! I wonder whether in his mind, every time you try to ask, tell or explain something to him, it makes him feel anxious because he's feeling generally out of control, and telling you to shut up or go away gives him back some control.

Looking shocked is not going to work.

Does he have a weighted blanket? What are his sensory preferences?

MumOfTwoBoyssss · 07/05/2020 21:15

Let me give an example of when he tell us to shut up or go away
Like earlier today, he was actually doing his school work on his tablet while I was putting a load of washing on, I was about to go check to see if he was ok or need help and he lashes out with punches and kicks, I'm telling it's no once to hit and then he says "shut up!"

Another example would be when me, him and his younger brother are just on the play mat, were so going nursery rhymes together and he sings along too then soon as we finish and I sign to him that we are finished (he has limited speech and communication so will use sign language, he's not deaf by the way, or use pecs) he would just pounce on me and try to lash out at me which most of the time I block then will tell me to "go away!"

I agree with what you are saying, 100% he must be over whelmed by all this lockdown, staying at home stuff, he's very energetic and he only been acting like this since the first week of lockdown, he is high risk so I have to keep him home, but he doesn't understand at all clearly he just wants to go to school and see his friends

Sensory preference is visual by the way, we have pecs that we use with him constantly, I've actually ordered more on Amazon because I didn't have pecs for emotions or behaviour just ones for routine and so on,

Oh I don't have a weighted blanket Actually and I had no idea about them, I'll be purchasing one tonight, just had to google what it was, I do believe he has high anxiety I also don't know why he has that I guess its just apart of him, but I suffer with anxiety myself and I try not to show it to him especially but maybe it's been running off on him alot more now I guess thank you for those suggestions

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MumOfTwoBoyssss · 07/05/2020 21:22

I'm so sorry for all the spelling mistakes and I also just realised bthat you said that he could because of what I say to him, I don't actually use alot of words for him as he doesn't understand I was saying like the examples I gave, and it's happening too quickly I will use words short phrases which he just copies and doesn't actually brake it, I don't have a visual yet to show him that what he's doing is wrong and that he has to stop, may have to show him a social story I think

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MumOfTwoBoyssss · 07/05/2020 21:26

Doesn't actually take it in*

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Littlefish · 09/05/2020 12:46

You would do better reporting your thread and asking for it to be moved to the SEN part of the site. You'll get much more response.

MumOfTwoBoyssss · 09/05/2020 22:56

Thanks.

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