Removing toy for almost 3 year old

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Looking for advice on discipline/educating my DD (2yrs 8 months) when she is misbehaving - specifically hitting us. Her behaviour has been awful at times during lockdown, hitting, pulling my hair amongst the usual tantrum behaviour. I've tried the "naughty corner" which does have some effect but she doesn't take it too seriously and keeps running out of it or rolling on the floor/grabbing her toys.

I've started to take away one of her toys as a punishment. Specifically one of her Paw Patrol figurines. She gets a warning first "if you hit daddy again then Zuma is going back to the shop". The couple of times I've enforced it we have kept the toy hidden for the night then go back to "the shop" the next day and get the toy. We always have a talk with her about why the toy has gone.

Today she hit DH after we got back from our walk- she was very tired at the time bit I really want to enforce that it's not ok. Should I still keep it overnight or give her some leniency based on how tired she was?

FYI she has the rest of the paw patrol gang to play with so shes not at a total loss!!

I have a 2yr 10 month old.

We r 'naughty step' people. I sit on the floor oposit him so he has no choice but to sit there untill he has calmed down and is ready to apologise. He knows if i start counting 1,2,3 he isnin trouble and usually stops at 1 now.

Taking a toy away isnt always ideal -imagine you are out at the park and she hits?! There will always be a spot on the floor she has to sit on but may not always have zuma to conviscate.

I would make no exceptions for being tired. Its no more acceptable that she hit just coz she is tired.

Jo frost has some awesome techniques.... give her a google x

I think she's a bit young for all that. She won't have the impulse control.
Just tell her firmly not to hit, and hold her hands if she tries. Also try to address what's making her unsettled, and avoid letting her get overtired.

The Incredible Years programme has some helpful information and guidance re appropriate and helpful use of time outs with children rather than a "naughty step".

The idea behind time out is essentially an opportunity for child to calm, which is also a consequence (!). Following the time out, child has an opportunity to discuss the action and consequences of it eg how mummy feels when you choose to hit her etc

This link is helpful re how to ensure time out doesn't get waylaid by child choosing not to engage: www.incredibleyears.com/download/resources/teacher-pgrm/iy_time-out-compliance-training.pdf

And this link provides detail on how they utilise: www.incredibleyears.com/download/research/IY-Time-Out-Works-Because-of-Quality-of-Time-In-Web.pdf

Best used from 3-9 years