Sleeping out

[Burrit]

Hi just a query, I have an 8 week old baby and my in laws keep asking for her to have a sleepover, I personally think she’s far too young to be sleeping out so won’t be letting her just yet but just wondering at what age did everybody let their child sleep out for the first time?

We’re also a very close family and all get on extremely well. Pre covid I saw my parents and sister 3/4 times a week

" I never understand this desire from grandparents to have them the minute they’re born"

Presumably they love them and want to spend time with them?

My
Oldest was 3 weeks old when she stayed at my mums fully breastfed as I had a wedding but I fed her before and after wedding and collected her super early,my second has never stayed out breastfed also and my 3rd who is nearly 9 months has never stayed out or been away from me at all also breast fed :)

Whenever you are ready. I hate my DS staying out, i just do. He sleeps well so that’s not a problem, but my oh my the sitting in bed relaxing with a cuppa in the morning is worth it’s weight in gold.
I still can’t wait to get back to him though.
8 weeks would have been far too young for me but each to their own if parents are comfortable with it.

@CloudsCoveredTheSky my parents and in laws spend time with them when they’re a actually awake? How do they spend time with them asleep?

To clarify I meant have them over night as this is what the OP is about

It's nice they want to help, but could they stay at yours and take care of her in the night giving you a lie in, if they want to help?

Ahhh OP, you'll get some mums on here who'll crucify you and report you to social services if you dare even think about leaving your child with you parents.

Obviously, the answer is when you are ready.

That could be when they're 2 days old, or 7 years old. It really doesn't matter. It's up to you and your child's father, that's all.

"my parents and in laws spend time with them when they’re a actually awake? How do they spend time with them asleep?"

Because presumably they spend time with them in the morning and evening?

@BullshitVivienne yes I think they are wanting her when lockdown is over, they aren’t even seeing her at moment obviously, I definitely will just see how I feel in a year 😂😂 might not let her stay out till she’s 18 😂

@wishfulthinking101 our house is a bit small so we don’t have any room for them to stay unfortunately, I will just have to make sure they get plenty of time with her during the day when lockdown is over and hope that’s enough 😂 either way she won’t be staying out

My son was four years old when MIL came to our house for a sleepover while I was in hospital having his brother. This was his first night without Mum.

At 8 weeks the risk of cot death is high, I wouldn't trust anyone except me to have baby overnight until at least 12 months.

Dd1 was about 5 months old I think she slept through the night in a travel cot. She's always had a huge bond with my parents and my dad has been the main male role model in her life. Dd2 was older as she didn't sleep as well - maybe 8 months. Again grandad has always been the main male role model for her and it was nice they had that bond and time they are 10 and 7 now and still had them for the afternoon weekly up until lockdown and they've always loved to go they don't stay over much any more as they now see their dad EOW so I don't want them away on my weekend

We left our first for an overnight at our house at 2. First time she slept overnight anywhere else was 6 though. I imagine in the current situation it would be wise to wait awhile.

ummm, he's 3 next month and still hasn't

this is a request for their benefit rather than out of consideration to you.

"this is a request for their benefit rather than out of consideration to you"

How can you possibly know that?

@Harrysmummy246

What a load of rubbish. I dread to think what your life is like if you jump to stupid conclusions like that all the time.

4 months - should have also had a sleepover at 6 months but coronavirus put paid to that.

Almost 5 at her childminders house who she'd been to in the day since she was a baby. She loved her sleepover. We don't have family local to us. I'd like her to stay at my sisters with her cousins for a night soon.