12 month old driving me up a wall

[Karorev]

I feel so bad but I find myself losing patience with my 12 month old at times and I don’t know what to do I am sitting here crying right now in tears because she just grabbed my eyeball and squeeze it honey what’s wron I feel so bad but I find myself losing patience with my 12 month old at times and I don’t know what to do I am sitting here crying right now in tears because she just grabbed my face really hard and squeezed my eye. She’s given me a black lip twice from smashing her head into my mouth when it was open so my tooth jammed into my lip. It seems like every single movement I make everything I do makes her cry a lot of the time . I never can use my phone because she cries or hits my phone in the only times I ever use it is to help us get ahead in life either trying to find out ways to make more income or Baby shopping for her online or doing stuff like that and she gets really mad at me and cries or hits my phone .

I feel really bad but I lose patience with her a lot and sometimes I yell because I just don’t know what else to do like I’m just completely exhausted ,

I take care of her alone 24 seven and I’m also 15 months pregnant we live in a really bad situation at my moms and I’m trying to get my own place and stuff but it’s really hard to advance in my life when she doesn’t give me any time to figure things out . I spent plenty of time playing with her and letting her roam around freely . she’s always free to play around and stuff and I just try to get a couple minutes here and there to do stuff on my phone to help us advance in life and she throws fits at me and violently grabs my face and pulls it . I am trying to get her to drink regular milk but often times she first refuses and still wants to be breast-fed in a lot of the times she will bite me as hard as she can with her teeth and I don’t know how to react I try my best not to react at all but it really hurts really really bad .

I know it sounds bad and I know it’s not her fault but I feel like beaten up by a 12 month old and I don’t know what to do anymore . Should I be disappointing her or some thing I just I’ve babysat kids for my whole life and I’ve never met ones that like are so violent with you and just don’t listen and do whatever they want and she always wins every single battle and I end up the one crying ..

It takes me about 20 tries to get her into her car seat in 15 minutes of time and then I end up crying after

Do I just suck at being a parent I don’t know what to do anymore I hate when I resort to yelling I don’t know what to do anymore

You sound like you badly need a break. Can your partner or your mum take her for a couple of hours a day to let you get some rest?

RE the violence this is really normal toddler stuff - redirect redirect redirect! A calm, firm "no, that's not nice" and a quick distraction.

Try not to use your phone at all when she's around, it sounds like she's crying out for your attention there, so put it in a drawer and leave it for naps/after she's asleep. Practice getting her to play by herself for a minute or two at a time.

This is tough but it will get better!

Her dad is out of state I have no idea where he’s been and my mom works Monday through Friday during the day and she’s too tired when she gets home to help out sometime she helps on the weekend for a couple hours but that’s it

I know I guess yeah I try my best to redirect and stay calm but sometimes I just lose my patience and yell at her and then I feel really bad. Especially when she does stuff that like physically hurts me I’m literally sitting here crying and when she bites my nipples really hard I literally cry after and I don’t know what to do to not react because it hurt so bad

Sorry but I don't understand how you are 15 months pregnant?

I’m sorry I have an iPhone and I’m using this thing where you press a button and you talk and it translate your voice into text I meant 15 weeks and sorry for the beginning for it repeating itself and it wrote down my honey what’s wrong thinks I was talking to my child I literally don’t even have time to type anything out

Ok sorry I thought it was a wind up.

Sounds like you are having a tough time. Are you in the UK?

No I live in the United States are baby forums I don’t like because there’s so many just mean people on there and judge mental..

Before the coronavirus thing I was going to try to maybe put her in daycare and work so that we could have space from each other even though I’d rather take care of her myself I just think it would be healthier but I don’t know when things are going to open back up again and when it would be safe to put her in daycare

I’m honestly just sitting here Crying because I’m having so much trouble even being able to reply on here she’s like running around trying to get into things and I’m exhausted I need a nap and she’s just trying to get into think she can’t have and like won’t come down she’s like really active

We live at my moms and I don’t get along with my mom’s husband so We’re stuck in a room all day long and we share a room so even when she takes naps I can’t get anything done because if I move she wakes up so it’s just like so frustrating I feel like I cannot function anymore

I can’t completely Baby proof because everything we own is in this room so I have to watch her every second she’s crawling around and I can never do anything else except watch her while she’s calling around not move when she’s sleeping and just barely function

Does she nap op? At around 1 I switched my dc to one, long nap a day after lunch. That would give you some time. I would also suggest ditching your phone completely whilst she's awake and around, she's seeing it as competition for attention and lashing get out. Save it for naps and after she's gone to bed. I think it's absolutely fine to cry out if she bites when breastfeeding, at 1 I think a bite would mean no more milk. Is she walking? I'm not sure of the situation where you are but a toddler around the block, looking at flower etc take up time and wears them out.

She can’t walk yet. So another thing. It puts a lot of strain on me carrying her a lot when I’m pregnant.ahere I live it’s been 50 degreees f so I guess 10 degrees c for Uk. I’ll take her on walks in her stroller since I can’t carry her for very long, then she kicks her blankets off and I put them on and she kicks them off about 20 times so I don’t do it for more than a half hour it’s too cold to be out. When it’s been a little warmer I take her to the beach and she crawls around in the sand. It’s just been cold here and we are on lockdown my state is rlly bad so there’s not much to do with her. Would be different if the weather is nicer. Not gonna lie though I dread going anywhere wirhcher bc getting her back into her car seat leaves me crying half the time

When I. Got pregnant my milk definitely decreased, been trying to get her on regular milk has tried every bottle and cup and she refused it 9/10 times. The most she’s drank in a day is 7oz. So far today (it’s 11am here) shes has two oz of milk and rest wanted to breastfeed .

And ya she usually takes ol1 or two naps a day..

I usually nap w her for at least one of them. I’m so exhausted from caring for her myself, doing all my errands with her (groceries, laundry mat, etc) and being pregnant, I often need extra nap myself sometimes she still wakes up at night too so it disrupts my sleep schedule at night

We finally took a nap.. woke up breastfed her and she just grabbed stmmy face
And pulled again I’m bleeding :(

Try and refer yourself on italk and see if your self referral gets picked up and someone may be able to call you and offer help, for you. Also try health visitors as they may be able to offer you some advice xx