Sleep training

[Enchanted19]

My son will be 14 months this month. I know we've left it quite late but he's always been in our room. He has his own cot and does sleep in there. But he does wake through the night and we bring him into our bed. Anyway when we come up to bed he's waking up as he's hearing us, he's waking up throughout the night as well. So I thought it was about time to start putting him in his own room.

Started tonight, bath at half 6, bottle and sleep by 7. That's his usual routine. Well he's still screaming now! I've let him fall asleep on me, he woke up screaming the minute I put him in his cot, which he never ever does. I've tried leaving him for 5 minutes then going in and calming him down which isn't working. 2 hours this has been going on for 😩😩😩

Does it get better and am I doing the right thing?

I did this at 12 months. I didn't leave her to cry at all, I just kept resettling, as soon as she was asleep I'd put her in the cot and leave (or try to!), when she cried I started again. We had 2 nights of absolute hell where I basically got no sleep because she woke up screaming as soon as I put her down, but then she got it and settled into just one wake up per night. I also insisted her naps were in the cot so she would figure out our bed wasn't an option (she napped in our bed too).

I told myself at the time that I'd give it 7-10 days before moving on to any kind of sleep training. Fortunately although we had those 2 dreadful nights I didn't need to do it so I'm glad I took that approach.

Oh wow really, so did you let her fall asleep on you then love her over to her cot?

My son has always napped in his cot and slept most the night since 6 months. He's had his naps in his cot today but just bedtime he just won't settle!

Yes I have to bfeed her to sleep, she won't sleep any other way, so when we moved her I was in a cycle of feed to sleep, put down in cot, she'd wake up 30-60 seconds later, I'd pick up again, feed back to sleep etc. Obviously I couldn't have sustained that for long but I really didn't want to leave her to cry if I could avoid it hence deciding to stick it out for a week or so. I think you just have to commit, accept it will be really hard for a day or two at least (possibly more) but he'll get there!