Terrible twos + bad parenting?

[Blueeyes91]

Hey all.

I have a 2 year old little girl. She's recently started to act up. It's all the expected toddler 2 attitude. However I'm worried it's more than that.

Her dad (my partner) is very quick to tell her off. Today he told he 'don't do that. Get down. Do as you're told' but he literally said it all together. So how can she understand /have time to process?

She had an ice lolly a little later and a bit dropped of the stick. I pointed it out to her and her dad grabbed her head to force her to look. Not very hard. But I personally would never do that. I was really shocked!

We also have a time out space. Which I allow a bit of wriggle movement for (she's only 2). But if her dad sees her move at all he's telling her off again.

I've tried talking to him. But he brushes it away. What can I do to help him calm down because I think this is making her more than just a toddler with the usual grumps.

Unfortunately there's not much you can do to make a dick less of a dick. He sounds unreasonable and intimidating. There might be a book someone can recommend, but he seems like a bit of a twat tbh.

He's talking too much. At that age you keep it very simple with as few words as possible. In regards to time out, a basic explanation of why she's there and no more talking even if she leaves it, silently put her back until the two minutes is done. then hugs and it's over.
And whats the issue with dropping a bit of ice lolly? Why did he want to make a thing of that?!
He needs to do a bit of research / reading and focus on the positives as much as possible. Loads of good parenting books out there.

Grabbing her head and making her look at a bit of fallen ice lolly is a strange and overblown reaction. I would have said something to him there and then to get his hands off her.
Could you print off some positive parenting stuff and show him? Hopefully he'll be receptive
This was shared on another thread the other day
learning.nspcc.org.uk/research-resources/leaflets/positive-parenting

If someone granted my daughter's head like that no matter how hard, is be kicking him in the balls and out of the house. It's aggressive. So is kicking someone in the balls i guess but more justified than offer a fallen ice lolly.

I read somewhere that it can take 30 seconds or more for a toddler to process an instruction, even longer if they are distracted. We try and stick to short, simple instructions, delivered initially with a please or thank you, and plenty of time to process and carry out the request, and a thank you and lots of praise when they do as asked. It certainly doesn't work all the time, toddlers are toddlers after all, but I think they need to be given the chance to understand the request and do as they are asked before they get told off.