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Breastfeeding latch?

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DHMB20 · 01/05/2020 11:32

Hi all, my little girl is almost 5 weeks old and we’ve made progress with breastfeeding (yay), but I’m worried that her latch is not as good as it could be as according to things I’ve read there are signs of both a good and bad latch when she feeds.

On the plus side, baby has gained roughly the equivalent of an ounce a day since she was born and she has plenty of wet and dirty nappies. When she feeds her cheeks are rounded, bottom lip splayed out like a fish with just a small amount of areola visible above her top lip, I can see her whole jaw moving to her ear, she has a steady suck-swallow rhythm, her chin is touching my breast with nose clear, my breasts often feel noticeably softer after a feed and (apart from when she’s being fussy and cluster feeding) she usually seems satisfied.

BUT my concern is that when she’s latching she doesn’t really open her mouth that wide (defo not as wide as a yawn like I’ve seen on videos and stuff), then towards the end of the feed it can start to feel a bit ‘pinchy’ (though this doesn’t hurt or bother me) and my nipple can come out looking a bit pinched. Also, my nipples aren’t cracked or visibly damaged in any way but they are a tiny bit sensitive to the touch between feeds.

I think maybe because of the pain of the initial latch at the beginning I might have let her develop bad habits like sucking her way down rather than taking a big wide mouthful from the start, but as this no longer hurts does this matter in the sense of her getting enough milk? And if you think this is a problem, any ideas on ‘how to teach an old dog new tricks’ and get her to open her mouth wider?? It feels comfortable for me now so I guess my only concern is just that she’s getting the most possible benefit out of feeding.

Thanks in advance!

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DHMB20 · 01/05/2020 11:37

Oh just to add, she is a very short-tempered baby so when we’re latching she loses patience and starts struggling/screaming if she’s not on and sucking quickly, which is why I’ve probably given up on waiting for a super wide mouth and let her latch how she sees fit

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DHMB20 · 02/05/2020 05:53

Anyone?

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Nquartz · 02/05/2020 05:58

Can you try squashing your boob into a sandwich shape so she can get further on? Your nipple coming out squished is a sign her latch isn't quite right but if it doesn't hurt then she's probably doing ok. DD never had a big wide mouth but she was quite small when she was born.

Can you find out if you have breastfeeding supporters locally who can help? I know ours have been redeployed into other roles but I think there's still volunteers on the phone

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ChikiTIKI · 02/05/2020 06:09

I am in a similar situation, could have written the exact same post actually.

The reason I am not too bothered is that this is DD2 and she feeds a lot faster than DD1 did. DD1 mustn't have had a great latch, and it took SO Long to feed, always at least an hour in the day, 2 hours at night. I never had to settle her ever, she always passed out from exhaustion when feeding. And my husband could comfort her for max 40 mins at any time when she was sad before she had to be fed again. Think she had an upper lip tie but I didn't notice until 9 months.

With DD2, she feeds in about half an hour to an hour at night and up to half an hour but usually quicker in the day. I think that's OK for this age, once at 12 weeks they usually get a lot quicker. Weight gain seems good but that's just a guess by her growing out of clothes. Only been weighed at birth and day 5 and had lost some weight but not loads.

I do have a niggling worry that I am allowing bad habits that will progressively get worse though....

YouJustDoYou · 02/05/2020 06:12

At 5 weeks if it were a bad latch you'd probably be cracked and bleeding by now, the fact it looks a little pinched isn't really too much of an issue.

Lily2020 · 02/05/2020 06:16

I breastfed my daughter till she was 17 weeks, awful in the very early days, cracked nips, total agony & completely understood why some ladies decide not too!
If I'm 100% honest I never got to the point where it didn't hurt when she latched on & my nipple was always funny shape after, she never opened her mouth wide enough either!
However she was a big baby, hardly lost any weight in the first few days & is still on 98th centile now so I did something right! 😊
If your not in pain & she's fed then don't worry!

DHMB20 · 02/05/2020 14:13

Thanks for all the replies. I’ve been trying all day with the techniques that have been suggested here and on YouTube ie squashing to a sandwich shape, the flipple and stuff but I just can’t seem to stop the nipple coming out pinched with a sort of ridge on it. I just can’t figure out what I’m doing wrong because when she’s sucking it looks like a good latch. Have started getting really stressed and tearful now because although I’m not in a lot of pain if I’m being honest it isn’t totally painless and I know the shape of the nipple isn’t right :( :( just cannot figure out what’s wrong :(

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Nquartz · 02/05/2020 16:57

You could use nipple shields. I had the same issue & ended up using them for about 4/5 months I think. Saved me, I wouldn't have carried on without them

Lily2020 · 02/05/2020 19:41

I second the nipple shields!! Also saved me in the first couple of weeks!

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