Breastfeeding

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Is anybody else sick of all the rude comments about breastfeeding? I find it so frustrating. Being told it's an intimate thing that should be done in private when it's really just feeding my baby? I see comments online about how a one year old is to old to be breastfed?? Or when mums don't breast feed until babies are certain age they then get shamed.

Sorry for the messy rant!

Yes it's annoying, just ignore and carry on.

I know, I just wish people would get over it and mind their business.

I have a lovely DH but I was so shocked by his attitude to breastfeeding when our DD was firstborn. He made me feel embarrassed to breastfeed with his parents around, instead of supporting me and telling them to leave the room if they didn't like it. I soon corrected him on this! He's different now and I put it down to the way he was bought up and the fact that old thoughts are really ingrained and try and be patient but his attitude did really rattle our relationship for a while. so yes very frustrating!

If someone makes a negative comment to you in real life, obviously that’s out of your hands and it is upsetting. But if you’re looking at them online, that’s your choice. I’m blissfully unaware of a lot of this negativity because I don’t seek it out - I’ve heard barely any comments like this from people I know in real life. Who cares what a bunch of attention seeking strangers are saying online - most of them are doing it to get a reaction like yours. As a pp said, ignore it/mute it if it’s riling you up.

I just felt I needed to vent. I know I'm not the only one these comments get to.

I can safely say I've not had any negative respond to breastfeeding my baby, however at 15 months old and still boobing I do worry about doing it in public because of people's attitudes. I ll still carry on doing it mind you.

On line it's different, you choose boob and are proud of it you're wrong, you promote breastfeeding you're wrong, you choose FF you're wrong, you stop breastfeeding at six months and switch to FF you're wrong. You can't win.

Just do what you want and tell people their opinions are like asshole, everyone's got one, some of the time it's full of shit.

TBH though it works both ways if you bottle fed, people would still moan. We can,t win. You are doing a fab job, let them get you down.

Yes there's no way to go about without being shamed. I'm going to breastfeed in public regardless but I do feel anxious when I do.

Should say "don,t let tehm get you down.".

I figured so haha.

I've never BF in public either as I'm worried about what people would think, even at baby groups. At hospital (we were in a while as DS was prem) i told two visitors (family) i needed to feed DS but they said that was rude & I should wait till they left or give him a bottle. I was giving him bottle top ups of ebm but also tfying to establish BF. Ive never tried to BF him around anyone other than my DP and mum since as a result. My cousins ' friends' told her it was disgusting to BF a 3 month old and shortly after she switched to formula and really regretted it. Lockdown is making the BF much easier at least but its crap that some people are so ignorant.

@aimzxd Sad that people would think breastfeeding a 3 month old is disgusting.

I literally know no-one who has ever said this? Where on earth do you live?

Breastfeeding entirely normal in my circles, all my antenatal group EBF, I’ve never had any looks or remarks from anyone.

@Megan2018 Maybe I need to move to your area haha

Let them be offended. Crack on.

DC2 has been bf on so many tree stumps during lockdown as having to exercise DC1 daily. When I'm feeding I'm watching the DC not the randoms walking by. No doubt some of them are highly offended!