Parents asking for help

[Pinkroseuk]

Hi - not sure really in the right section but my dad has been made redundant and my mum has not worked for many years (awaiting knee replacements) they have racked up massive debts and due to them shortly having no income are looking for help.
They have hinted that they would like me to get an evening/weekend job - if I did 30
Hours extra a week this might be enough to get there main 3 big bills paid. Is there any legal issues with me doing this ?
Not particularly keen as will then be doing a 70 hour week but neither of them will get a temp job and want to just apply for a job that will suit my dad. Thanks

Do you live at home? Your Dad should be getting a temp job not you working 70 hours a week. That’s ridiculous.

They need to contact step change about their debts.

Why can't your dad get a temporary job?

No I don't live at home. Hubby and I have our own home.
He has contacted a charity.
He could but teaches so doesn't want to get one and not be able to start at a school straight away

They can claim benefits and contact a debt charity /organisation or CAB.. They are out of order expecting you to help imo.

Could he tutor? What did he teach?

Thanks unfortunately benefits won't go anywhere near to the income they need to keep up debt repayments.

Yes he has been but as kids are not as school atm people don't want tuition unfortunately

Being honest with the companies will go a long way. My exh left me with loads of debt. Paid the minimum without interest for about 3 years.

Working time directive states no more than an average 48hr week but you can opt out of it and many companies insist you do. Assuming you aren't doing the extra hours for the one company, you'll need to let both know that you have another job. It will impact your tax also so be careful to factor this when working out take home pay.

Don't be so fucking stupid - do you have mug tattooed on your forehead? They're suggesting you work a 70 hour week rather than your dad get off his arse and look for something. How low can they go? What nasty people your parents are.

Your dad would rather you work a second job to pay their debts then get a job himself? Wow he sounds lovely ☹️ doing a bit extra to help them is one thing but that's n another level.

Thanks @Windyatthebeach

I'm not planning on doing it long term - probably only 6-9 months.
He might get something soon but due to the virus not many places actually recruiting atm

I would have thought some stressed parents who are trying to WFH, on a good income, and trying to home school their kids might be quite happy to pay to outsource homeschooling.

I'm sorry but there is no way I would do this .. I'd be shocked if my mum suggested anything like it .. what a bloody cheek! They will have to sell something / downsize / get their own jobs .. cheeky feckers!!

You can't seriously be thinking about doing this ?

Why have they built up such debt ?

Why can't he get a (different) job ? He can't seriously expect you - who have your own life and responsibilities - to work 2 jobs while he does nothing ???

Tell you what OP why don't you sell your house and pimp your husband and kids out too? Obviously better than your father actually supporting himself...

Lots of supermarkets have jobs going. Plus Carers, delivery drivers etc.

(For your dad, not you)

Your dad needs to get another job- any job ASAP.

He can resign from that job if he gets a teaching job at any point.

Your mum could also look for jobs where she does not need to be very mobile.

It's not fair to expect you to work 70/hr week when neither of them are working.

I hope they have also sought debt advice and support as there is help out there.

Is he having a laugh?

Tell him he made you, not the other way round.

Why can't your dad get a temp job? Even if schools go back in June they will not be recruiting for new teachers to start before September.

Or he could do online tutoring? Or both considering, the mess they are in.

He could but teaches so doesn't want to get one ?????
You are married with your own home etc but your parents expect you to get a 2nd job to support them?
Ok your DM is waiting on a knee replacement, that doesn’t make her unable to work, wheelchair users work!
Your parents sound useless, ran up debt, don’t want to work and expect you to find them.
NO NO and let me see NO!!

Then he needs to either temp/work in a factory/supermarket until more work comes up.

As I have done, and many people have done between jobs.

Is there any reason DM can't do a seared job? Typing, transcripts, virtual PA etc?

Your Dad needs to get a temp job & your Mum could do some work. Why has she not worked for so many years? Teaching isn't really well paid enough to have just one wage coming in. Unless he's deputy head or something? How old are they?

I would not get a second job when both your parents are able to work, but just unwilling. Even if they are truly unable to work, they should apply for benefits.
If benefits won’t cover their debts, then they need to go bankrupt. Refer them to citizens advice
www.citizensadvice.org.uk/debt-and-money/debt-solutions/bankruptcy-2/

The primary legal issue you’d have to contend with is paying extra taxes. Also, if they do claim benefits but then you are sending them money on the side to cover their debts, they will be doing benefit fraud.

Did he not get any redundancy money.
He could always do some Fruit picking!
Really! That's a big big ask. I don't recommend you take this upon yourself.
You will kill your relationships working a 70h week. You will be tired have no time for dp and you will end up resenting your mum and dad.
They are adults let them sort it out.