Please tell me your 9-12 month routines...

[Blueswede]

Especially if you breastfeed (still breastfeeding although he’s not that into it now he’s loving solids!)
DS just turned 9 months and having a bit of a nightmare with sleep. Think it’s a regression but he’s never been great with sleep. I really want to know what other parents are doing for routine!
Currently
Co sleep as it’s the only way I get any sleep!
4/5 am he wakes up and I change his full wet nappy and he latches on after. He drinks so much at night that he can’t go a full night on a 12 hour pampers!
7ish wake up and offer milk but not interested because he drank earlier
8ish we have solids breakfast so either toast porridge or weetabix usually with some fruit and offer sips of water from beaker
9 I try to get him to nap.
9:30-10 wakes up
Between wake up and lunch he plays crawling, goes into his jumparoo, maybe outside to play if it’s nice, usually offer bf around 11 but usually not interested
12pm lunch solids
1pm-3pm I aim for this to be a nap but sometimes he wakes after 45 mins
3-5 more , reading, playing either on floor so can crawl or in playpen if I’m cooking or cleaning
5pm dinner
6pm bath, brush teeth, story, bf and sleep

He then usually wakes half an hour later, then an hour later..I really need to try and teach him to fall asleep without the boob but he just screams and shouts even if I’m sat next to his cot! I then give up and go up around 10 and bf him to sleep in my bed (following all the safety guidelines) and he sleeps next to me then.
I don’t mind co sleeping but I’d love to start having space to sleep alone as my back is getting bad and he’s getting too heavy to hold to sleep. He’s an exhausting little man and I love him to bits but I need to start getting him to fall asleep in cot and stay there if possible!

Hi, DS is 13 months (11.5 corrected) and has been on this routine for a couple of months:

Wakes around 6.30am, nappy change and cup of milk
8am ish breakfast (weetabix or porridge and fruit) - this is usually earlier when DH is at work but we’re being lazy at the moment!
Between 9/9.30 nap for around 1 hour 15 min.
Wakes, water. If he seems hungry I offer a snack but he’s never usually bothered.
12 - lunch
Between 1.30/2 - nap for about an hour
Wakes, water and snack
4pm ish - tea
5.45 - 8oz bottle although we’re in the process of moving this to a cup
6pm bath, story, bed.
Asleep around 6.30 / 7 latest.

DS is also a heavy wetter and we’ve always double nappied him overnight as otherwise he’d wake up soaking (never bothered him but bothered me). It’s the only thing that’s ever worked. I’d try to get away from the 4am nappy change of you can find a solution.

We use cloth nappies for daytime and put a reusable bamboo booster in a disposable over night. Works a charm.

We use the small size of these as they fit perfectly in a disposable:
www.thenappylady.co.uk/nappy-boosters/little-lamb-triple-bamboo-boosters.html

If that doesn't work, then you can also put a waterproof nappy wrap over the top.

The Nappy Lady has some good advice about this:
www.thenappylady.co.uk/news/nappy-concerns-problems/how-to-stop-disposable-nappies-leaking.html

Sorry - I realise that's not what you were asking about, but I thought it might help with the leaky nappy issue!

I have a 9 month old bf baby and this is pretty much our routine except as she is child 2 I’ve learnt not to bother with the cot and that it will all be fine in the end.

Thanks all. @Abouttimemum I haven’t tried double nappies but willing to give it a go - do they go opposite directions?
@Ihaveoflate I’ve started on cloth nappies during the day but have been a bit scared of using them overnight - never thought to use a booster in a disposable!
@Selfsettling3 can I ask where you put her at bedtime? Does she go in a cot until you go to bed or do you settle her in your bed? I’ve gone that once (no pillows, bed rails and a monitor camera) and he actually stayed asleep there til I went to bed!
@mummi1984 I’ll definitely try it!

DD2 will still only sleep in my arms - this is a fucking nightmare so I’m
stuck on the sofa with her. She has been unwell, allergies so I haven’t pushed it much. Next week I will be moving to a Montisorri floor bed (mattress on the floor) and like her older sister I will put her down in the floor bed until I go to bed. DD1 was in her own double bed with bed rails at 20 months.

@Blueswede we put his normal nappy on the bottom with small holes in to relieve the pressure (we use disposables) and then a nappy pant over the top to catch the excess. It really does work. And we tried absolutely everything.
I can’t help with the co-sleeping as we always put him in his cot for sleep, he doesn’t like noise or light so he always goes in his dark quiet room. At 4 months I did pick up/put down and after a week or so I sat next to his crib while he went to sleep. After that he went down no problem. That’s entirely unhelpful for your situation but there was gentler ways to help your baby sleep that don’t entail leaving them to cry. I think if you can get through the nappy change then maybe that’s something to look at.
Whatever works for you really.

Op I feel for you, I had this!! The tiredness is torture, going about with so little sleep!
This is what helped us a bit, we started when we was 9.5 months old. During day it was pretty much like you. I started cuddling to sleep for naps first instead of bfeeding.once she was ok with this I stopped bf to sleep of an evening and cuddled her instead so she fell asleep in my arms. Took about 1 week to 10 days for her to "get it". Now I do the last bf before bath.
All the wake ups until 11pm are done by my partner
After 11 she has boob two times, if she wakes more often I cuddle her back to sleep.
Now she wakes up 2 or 3 times a night. So much better than hourly!
Because she's not having boob every frigging hour during the night now her nappies don't get soaked anymore and she eats a good breakfast.
I must add she was in her cot already as I can't sleep with her in my bed.
Hope this helps! If not there is

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