Sleep deprivation

[Cait73]

My gs goes to bed 6pm no problems 🙌🏼

But from 10pm he's up and down all night, it's 4am and he's still wide awake.

I'm getting 2 possibly 3 hours sleep a night I think I'm in and out of his room at least 10 times, I don't know what to do.

The days are a blur today I couldn't even get dressed (don't worry 15 month old was washed, dressed, fed 3 decent meals and bathed) I'm just a wreck 😣

@EngagedAgain agree with everything you say and I'm not doing either of us any favours 🙈 I am definitely over compensating and it's not necessary

Thank you everyone who's replied I'm feeling a LOT more positive today it helped just saying it all outloud (and realising the problem is with me more than gs who's simply responding to me) and with the things everyone's said I've drawn up a new schedule starting today

Nap will be 11am, then 11:30, then 12 and so on until we get to 1pm

Dinner will be 5pm, bath at 6pm ready for bed at 7pm - all an hour earlier

Hope it works, he might be "delayed" but he's a big boy now and perfectly capable of settling himself - I'll try to work on settling me 😊

Dinner, bath and bed will all be an hour LATER not earlier god I'm tired 😂

BTW sounds like you are doing an amazing job looking after your GS in what is obviously a very difficult time for you personally and in general.

Get through today, which probably will be a bit tougher, because of the bedtime delay, and look at the new routine as a fresh start. Yes you're right, he's following your lead, and it's all very quickly got out of hand, but it can just as quickly get back in hand. Try to at least to start with, get some sleep when he goes to sleep at bedtime, as I expect he will still wake up sometime at the moment.

Well he didn't nap 'till 1pm and woke after just an hour (loud noise outside) he's looking for food now as it's his usual tea time I'll have to feed him soon!! But will hold off bath and bed as late as possible 🤞

Good luck for tonight

Thank you, I've just put him down 🤞 we've had quite an active day he's done lots of walking and running and we're nearly an hour later than regular bedtime

Lo woke up briefly at 1am was settled and asleep again before half past - slept through 'till 6:30am which is early for him but I don't care he only woke once and I've had over 6 hours sleep!!! 🙌🏼

That's great news cait73, hope your feeling slightly more refreshed.

OP, great news. You can build on it. Expect there will be the odd bad night, but if you sleep well most of the time, you'll be able to cope with the rough times. Good luck with it all.

Great news OP, well done for taking on your GS. You are an angel and he is very lucky.

I agree that pushing back the nap time would help greatly. Over the space of a week or so I would make it later by 20 mins each day so that the 11 o clock nap becomes a 1 o clock one. That way he’ll wake around 2:30-3 and bedtime can be 7pm.

Sorry you’re suffering OP, sleep deprivation is really tough but with a few tweaks in routine I think you’ll start seeing an improvement.

Ignore my post, thought I had read to the end of the thread but hadn’t!

Delighted for you OP, hopefully it’s a sign of things getting better for you.

Day 3 into "new routine" and I feel bloody marvellous!! Gs woke me up once the first night, twice the next night (all V brief) and last night he slept 12 hours straight through 🥳

That's fantastic news OP, well done! Everything feels so much easier when they sleep at night. Enjoy!