12 month old doesn’t let me exist

[Karorev]

My child is 12 months and some day I am finding it rlly difficult

She cries non stop, if shes not eithe roaming around free or eating ..
I’m a single mom, her dad only visits so it’s not even a beak and one hr a week and have no help.
So I have to do alll my errands and chores w her (Groceriee laundry clean dishes)

Whenever I put her in the playpen to get her food, clean, anything it’s non stop crying .
Getting her in her car seat non stop crying,
I take a shower non stop crying
I do legit anyrbjnt non stop crting..

Had to fight her to change her poop diaper and ended up changing it with her standing up and trying to run away from me and screaming and now my back hurts rly bad

Idk waht to do anymore. Does anyone have tips bc I can’t listen to the constant yelling
I’m tired . I get 0 breaks. My day is either doing chores for her like dishes while she screams or watching her while she crawls around so she doesn’t get hurt
I have nothing left to give Idk wat to do anymore

I’m also 14 weeks pregnant but so it makes everything so much worse too:(

I baby proofed one part of my house so that dd could usually 'roam frree' without me being right next to her, is this an option for you? She similarly hated the playpen, so used it as a kind of huge baby gate to pen her.into one area of our open plan house where she couldn't do any damage. I also read a post on here about very early on establishing a rule that if you are sitting down with tea, teaching the children that it is your 'breaktime'. It was from a mum of young twins and I can't remember how old they are but I thought it was a fab idea

Do you have a number for your health visitor? I think you need to ring them asap for some advice and support.
Why is your baby's father not helping you?
There is clearly a back story here. It sounds really tough for you and your daughter. She is so little, she isn't doing this on purpose.
You both sound really distressed.

I found around 1 very difficult - still needy, easily frustrated and unable to really communicate. Agree with the idea of baby proofing a space if you can, I used to have "special toys" that only came out at certain times - there was a particularly irritating car toy that only came out for poo nappies! My DS has always gone to bed at a set time so I usually get the bulk of housework done and get a shower/bath of an evening.

What's the situation with your ex? Do you have an access agreement in place so he has your DD for certain times?

It is hard, and I can't imagine trying to do it alone whilst pregnant. I assume from what you've written that the father isn't involved and you have no family support.

You talk about showering/shopping/tidying up, but not what you actually do with her. At 12 months, crying is her only way to communicate with you. I'm not trying to be critical, but how much of your time does she get without you being distracted (by chores/thinking about what needs to be done etc)? DS's behaviour at that age was always worse if I was distracted and he felt 'disconnected'.

If she's happy roaming around free, you need to make an area where she can do this safely. This will be useful when the baby comes as well.

Re: nappy changes, I had to change DS standing up from 9 months, and the trick that worked with him (and DNephew) was to get him to stand next to a chair/sofa. Put some toys (keys/remote control/anything that will occupy her) on the chair, get clean supplies and somewhere for the dirty nappies/wipes ready on the floor next to it, show her the toys and then change her quickly while she's inspecting them. I used pull ups, because they made it even easier, but they are more expensive.

and , It will get easier

She sounds bored. Do you play with her? Take her out for walks, sing songs, read books?