Can I stop my ex's mother seeing my child?

[mapleeleaves]

Hello,

I'm seeking immediate advice on if I could stop my ex partners mother from seeing my child. My ex partners mother treated me horribly throughout the pregnancy, I had to stay with her for a while and she was controlling, narcissistic and toxic, which also rubbed off on her other two children she has which are 4 and 5, the 5 year old copied her toxic behaviour and the mothers boyfriends anger issues by screaming and throwing things when he did not get his way.

I am worried if I let this woman into my child's life she will have a negative impact on him and he will get traits my ex had which were caused by her.
My ex boyfriend says he does not want her in his life but I do not believe him.
I am worried that he will take my baby to her house, he is on the birth certificate but it would honestly stress me out and cause upset if he took my son to her house.

Please please please
Can someone help.

Thank you so much

You can’t stop him taking the baby to his mums without cutting his contact and without cause that’s unreasonable. I’d assume as primary caregiver you’ll have the biggest impact on your son over maybe one visit every 1/2 weeks with his gran would ever have.

Yeah, not up to you to dictate who he involves in his child's life assuming there's no abuse concerns

No you can't. You need to raise your child with positivity. You can't control who they see, they are not a possession. You can control how you react to every circumstance.