How long between naps?

[HelloItsmeAgain1]

I'd love to get a picture of what people actually experience.

I have a 5 month old. His ideal is to nap every 2 hours, and he doesn't go quite so mental. Doesn't always go to plan and often it's 4 hours between naps. He can cry for hours and nothing seems to work. All I read is how babies need 4 hours of naps a day. Anyone else? And yes I'm in there pre tired signs. Sometimes only 1 hr after he's just woken up.

We get about 2 hours a day in total.

Generally speaking, with my youngest:

0-3 months - 40-60 min awake time

3-5 months - 60-90 min awake time

5-9 months - 2h awake time (3 naps a day)

9 months - 20/22 months - 2h-2h-4h awake times with 2 naps (worked better for us than the more accepted 234 for 2-nap days)

22m - 4y - one lunchtime nap.

My DS always had a very early nap - he'd be desperate for a nap about 45 minutes after waking. He only had short naps at that stage - like 30 - 45 minutes every 2-3 hours.

How much does he sleep at night?

My 6m old naps every 2-3 hours but the length of the nap can vary hugely! I have found the Huckleberry app brilliant for knowing when she should nap at different ages and it's free. I recommend it to anyone with sleep problems.

I use huckleberry. I feel like you all have much more normal naps!

Anything between 9.5 - 12 hours at night, according to the app. You guys?

My issue is even when it's the perfect sleep window he doesn't settle.

I still use sleep crutches for daytime naps. She is much, much harder to settle in the day! I will do anything I can: feeding to sleep, a walk in the pram, bouncing on the yoga ball... Not ideal, but if I don't she just doesn't sleep.
Night times for us range from 9-12 hours (with about 3-4 wakes, sometimes more)
Average day time naps only total 1.5-2 hours most days.
30 mins is the average length of each one. I'm holding out on it increasing with age and focusing on the 12 hours at night instead.

Our ds is 4 months and we have similar problems! He slept and napped well for a few weeks after 12 weeks but it's gone to pot recently.

In the day I try to start getting him down after about 90 mins, hoping he'll be asleep before it hits 2 hours. We use crutches too if he won't self settle (with white noise) but it still won't always work out!

At night we try to go up about 7 and have him down for 8 and will stay in bed (he's in a next to me) until about 7 or 8 in the morning aiming for 10 to 11 hours sleep but that's very hit and miss at the moment as well 🤯 We keep the lights low, avoid changing him unless he poos and try to keep any interactions 'shushed'.

How do you get yours down? Same nap issue and ours has about one overtired outburst a day, which is upsetting. I feed to sleep then transfer to cot as nothing else works. Half the time that doesn't work either, so we have to keep trying until he's so tired it does.