Unsure if my parenting views are realistic

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Due to the situation of Covid-19 my OH and her 7 year old daughter have moved in. I live with my landlord and he is very relaxed and easy going. We have a 3 bed house so a spare room for my OH daughter. But my partner won’t put her in the room and has her in woth us. This is taking its toll on me as I am still working from home and like the evening to unwind and get into bed around 9. My OH won’t budge on her daughter going to bed at 9/9:30pm because she is not at school. Normally on a school night she would be in bed by 7:30pm. I personally do no see why this can not be the same now, especially if I am still working and need to be up at 6 every morning and work until 5pm everyday. I just feel there is no compromise with putting her in the spare room or making bed time 7:30 like it should be on a school night. Am I over reacting?

How long have you been together? All 3 of you are in the same bed? Her poor daughter.

That’s so weird!!! Why can’t she be in her own room?

Maybe your partner doesn't trust your Landlord and doesn't like the idea of her daughter sleeping in a room on her own at night with a man she doesn't know sleeping in another room?

Maybe you could buy your partner a video baby monitor for her daughter's room if this is the case or you might just have to put up with the situation until things return to normal and your partner can return to her house.

How long have you been together?

As a mother of a girl I wouldn’t be comfortable with this set up.

Can your partner and her daughter sleep in the spare room together?

My four year old is going to bed at his usual time as I’m getting him up at his usual time. My boyfriend has moved in for lockdown, my son likes sleeping with me so when he wakes up (usually around 3am), he gets in my bed and my boyfriend sleeps on the sofa (we put a sheet/duvet on before we go to bed).

Well your OH and her DD should have one room then and you have the other. Do you not have communal/lounge space?

Why dd is in with you I don't know but that's between the mum and her daughter.

Why doesn't the partner and his/her daughter sleep in the spare room.
Then you can go to bed and get up when you like. Just like before.
You can't move a child into a house and then expect everything to just fit into a schedule that suits only you.

Who's paying the rent?

I wouldn't be happy with this situation if I was any of the adults involved. Or the child.

I think your partner and child should go home because it's clearly not working.

I would not be comfortable with this set up at all, I wouldn't want my daughter to be in her own room when there are two adults who are unrelated to her sleeping in the same house. Also I know my child has alot more energy now than when shes at nursery because shes not doing as much as she would at nursery so putting her to bed earlier would only result in her waking up earlier. It doesnt seem like a great set up to be honest and doesnt look like it's working.

That's seriously fucking inappropriate - I mean you being in a shared bed with a 7yo child who is not related to you.

Protect yourself and put an end to this.

Why can't they be at their own home?

This is not cool. A seven year old shouldn't be sharing a bed with her mums boyfriend

@Ilovethekittehs, no one said the partner is male.

It's not on. You shouldn't have to share a bed with a child.

@Footle true, she shouldn't be sharing a bed with her mothers partner

Due to the situation of Covid-19 my OH and her 7 year old daughter have moved in

Why have they moved in?
Why could they not stay in their own home?

9.30pm Sounds really late for a seven-year-old to me. I agree that there should be some adult time for you. If OH doesn't want daughter to stay by herself in the spare room they should sleep with daughter. I think you should have a right to your own bedroom