Please give me some advice regarding ex and contact!

[pedilia]

My 6 year old son has very irregular contact with his Dad, he has seen him three times since Christmas, he is supposed to ring him every Wednesday but we can go for 2 -3 weeks without hearing from him, then he will ring on another day.

He has rung this evening demanding he sees him this weekend, I have left it up to DS1 and he is adamant as always that he does not want to go. I told him to tell his Dad that and the response was
" tough, you have to come and if you don't then I will just turn up and get you"

So what do I do, respect DS1 and not force him to go or try and maintain some sort of contact and make him go.
My ex is very spiteful and will dream up something to do if he does not get his own way.

help!!!!!!!!

Tell his dad to get nuffed and make sure you are both out shopping or something!
Your DS1 is old enough to know whether he enjoys being in his father's company, and evidently at the moment he is not wanting to be part of it as he is finding it too emotional and distressing.
Explain to his Dad that what he is doing is detrimental to his son, and he is going to have to start doing what he has said he will do regarding phone calls and time-keeping before any trips are considered, as it is helping no-one and it raises concerns that he may not show up for outings that he has planned with DS1, which will cause yet more heartbreak. Explain that he needs to build up trust with his son and then they will enjoy their time together and you will get some much needed time off!