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Pleasenohate · 13/04/2020 13:57

Hi everyone,

I really need advice. Basically I am a single mum of one beautiful little girl who is almost nine. She's fit and healthy and she has no underlying health issues (that I am aware of anyway).

I am a community care worker and I have been working throughout this corona virus and through lockdown.

My daughter is going to school during the day when I am at work. To be honest, I have woken up today super anxious about her getting the corona virus and my health anxiety has kicked in and I am terrified that she will get really poorly or worst. Some of the houses I attend are not the most hygienic. Obviously I change out of my work clothes before I pick her up from school and I can dettol my car but I am SO scared about bringing the virus home from work and making her poorly.

Just to clarify none of my clients have been diagnosed with it, but I know the situation is going to get so much worst before it is better!

My mum works in a NHS call centre and they are being really good with the hand sanitizing and social distancing. My mum lives with my brother and he has been furloughed. They have both said they would be happy for my daughter to go and stay with them until this blows over. Obviously child care would not be an issue as my brother is currently at home 24/7. So my daughter would also come into contact with far less people. They live an hour away from me but I would be able to facetime her.

Realistically, she is probably safer from the virus being with them compared to being with me. But equally, I am aware my mum could catch the virus still from something as simple as the doing the food shopping and she could get poorly anyway.

I just don't know what to do. It may sound so incredibly selfish but the thought of her not being with me breaks me. I have been a single parent and raised her by myself since the day she was born. She is my best friend.

Long story short: Should I let her go to my mum's house for the forseeable future?

Honest opinions please. As much as I would love to not have to work during this time my clients need care more than ever, and I have a house and car I need to pay for. Her dad is not involved and does not contribute financially either.

Thanks in advance
xxx

OP posts:
JiltedJohnsJulie · 13/04/2020 16:02

Does your DM go out to work or is she working from home?

Pleasenohate · 13/04/2020 19:03

She goes out to work xx

OP posts:
JiltedJohnsJulie · 13/04/2020 19:11

If your DM is leaving the house to go to work, I don't think your DD is going to be any safer living there, plus we don't really know how long this is going to go on for. How would you feel if you didn't see her for months and how does she feel about a separation?

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chickenyhead · 13/04/2020 19:17

does your daughter have any underlying health conditions? If not she is extremely low risk.

If not, I would minimise the emotional impact on her of moving her away from you. She will worry about you being alone.

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