Hit back or tell a teacher, what do you tell your child to do?

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i used to say tell a teacher.
now i ask, did you start the fight? he knows he must not start fights.
if it is a particular child in the class, i say 'hit back'

As a teacher, I say tell the teacher.
As a parent, I say hit back

I say tell the teacher. Yes, someone may have hit her or hurt her, but I really don't want to teach her that hitting is okay. It's like spanking a child for hitting you-it makes no sense at all. Children should be disciplined for hitting in another way than physical punishment.

Dh, however, doesn't just say hit back. He says "punch in the face and kick 'em in the shin"

I DO tell her she can defend herself. By moving away and telling an adult who can discipline that child properly. Dh says I will raise a wimp; I say I won't raise a bully.

Can you tell we have some issues of conflict in parenting?

I say NEVER hit back unless that's the only way to escape. Violence begets violence and it always escalates. Always tell the teacher.

We say 'stick the heid in'

On amore serious note, as a parent I would say hit back but if your child is getting twatted a lot the chances are they are not the sort of kids who feels able to hit back. So that advice just might not work for your child whether you agree with it or not.

(We do say 'stick the heid in' though)

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The school has a responsibility to do something, aims. Have you seen their anti-bullying policy? Don;t give up on that. School ethos plays a big part in stopping bullying at school. It's not just about the kids.

I would say hit back and put up wioth the punishment too.

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tell teacher

school line will always be 'tell the teacher', can't be any other way. Staff do realise parents might say otherwise.

Well for years I told ds to tell the teachers but with his shyness he wouldnt. For a long time he put up with nasty kids doing stuff to him. At times I have had to go and see them myself. However, he would just be shown up by the teachers as they would just say stuff to him in front the class like 'well dont play with him then'. Finally I started to tell him to stick up for himself and I was pleased when he did. I have even had children walk on him in football boots after tackling him to the ground. Then I had to change plan again as he became like a little prefect with badge and was afraid if he put one step wrong he would lose it. Now I am back to square one where I have to keep telling him to tell on these children

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hit back and stand up to them cause if they dont it will go on and on

I say tell the teacher. If he ever hits back he is the one who is blamed and the instigator gets off scott free!

I always said, never hit back and tell the teacher and the teacher did b* all, it turned into horrible bullying.

Now I say hit back and hit back HARD

Aims, if the teachers were that disinterested I'd likely tell dd to stick up for herself and hit back. Even though it goes against what I've tried to teach, I'm not going to ask her to be a punching bag either.

hit back

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