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usernamewastaken · 10/04/2020 09:46

I am divorced from my one child's father. When DD (8) sees her dad, she goes to his and his partner's house (who has grown up kids who live elsewhere). My partner (we live together) has two children (daughter is 4 and son is 9) from two previous relationships. He's asked the mothers if child contact can continue, and if we can pick up the kids for an overnight stay. For info, no signs of symptoms with any of us, and DP still has to go to work (construction). Mother of his daughter says yes, no problem. Mother of his son says no, because 1, he's still at work and 2, we should also need to consider that the half-sister, the 4yo daughter, has another brother and sister at her own home and each of those have a different father and she has no idea if those children are seeing their own fathers and if they, or their extended families, are adhering to the rules. I totally understand this; it's not as simple as there's just a couple of kids involved, there's actually a myriad of connections and how do I know if DP's ex wife's ex partners are socially distancing, and by his 4yo daughter coming here, is there an increased risk? We're already more at risk because he goes out to work. DP wants his daughter to visit (and his son, but accepts that won't happen) but I'm now unsure.

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JiltedJohnsJulie · 10/04/2020 10:41

What are you unsure about OP?

Yes there's obviously a risk and no you don't know who has been following the rules and who hasn't.

If he's fine with it and the children understand, I wouldn't worry too much, just maybe encourage him to slow them regularly Smile

usernamewastaken · 10/04/2020 11:20

Unsure whether or not his daughter should visit, given the uncertainty of his daughter's extended family's adherence to social distancing. It's not just whether his daughter and ex have been in contact with others; it's also his ex's other exes who are the fathers of the other two children and if they adhere to it all. Blended family probs eh.

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ChandlerIsTheBestFriend · 10/04/2020 11:25

I’m confused about who owns all these kids.

Anyway- it sounds like there are far too many risks of kids going elsewhere an picking up the virus so I wouldn’t be pushing to have any of them come to my house. You have to be responsible OP.

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