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Laylor · 08/04/2020 01:36

Please someone reassure me.

My baby is 6 weeks old. When he was born we were admitted for a week as he had an infection, we came home for 2 weeks and was admitted again for another infection. Since then we have been back to the paediatric unit on two separate occasions due to his sleeping pattern and being very irritable. The first doctor advised the baby had reflux and prescribed medicine which gave him constipation and the second doctor advised he didnt have reflux but did have colic and took him off the tablets and told us to ride it out.

Inbetween all this going on hes generally a terrible napper in the day and can get by on very little sleep such as all day awake and the odd 30 mins nap here and there. Sometimes he can nap fantastically. His night sleep is similar. Good days and bad days. He can be happy smiling on the floor one minute then kicking off the next. He will literally smile and then his next facial expression hes crying. He seems to whinge constantly. I find it very frustrating and sometimes feel as though im failing as a mother because he just dosent seem to be happy. My husband and I feel like we have no support as we are first time parents and unable to have anyone in the house due to this lockdown. Health visitors only available by phone. We are both close with our parents and finding this isolation very taxing. Along with being knackered and still finding our feet

I know all this is completely normal and do feel if it wasnt for the lockdown I could cope a little better. We do go for walks a few times a day but its just around the block and not the same as packing the car up for the day.

Please someone talk nice things to me whilst I dwell in my own self pity. Xxx

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Elhan · 08/04/2020 06:54

When he had an infection, was he given antibiotics? I only ask because when my little girl was born emergency c section, she had to go on antibiotics straightaway and the doctors warned me they would strip her stomach lining essentially. After 2 weeks of crying I swapped her milk to comfort milk (more easily digested, lower ij lactose) and the crying stopped and the painful cries after each feed stopped. Not sure if that's something to think about but sending love x

Laylor · 08/04/2020 07:41

Yes antibiotics both times. First time 5 days and second times 3 days. I mentioned changing his milk to the paediatric nurse and she told me not to yet. He slept like a dream last night and has just started to stir. They gave me advice on how to help colic and wind and to basically ride it out x

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JiltedJohnsJulie · 09/04/2020 04:22

The first 6 weeks can be very draining and it sounds like you’ve had a more rocky start than most.

Has anyone suggested giving him a probiotic fir the pain? I’ve not tried it but I’ve seen a few MNers really recommend doing it.

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Selfsettling3 · 09/04/2020 20:11

He sounds over tired. How old is he awake for at a time? How do you try to get him to sleep?

Greenmarmalade · 09/04/2020 20:14

A cloth sling could really help. Not a babybjorn one, just a wrap or ring sling. Worked wonders for my whingey baby!

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Laylor · 09/04/2020 21:14

@Selfsettling3 you literally have read my mind. I've been saying this for weeks. His naps are awful during the day. I have to physically force him to sleep. I try to aim for 1 hour awake time but every day is a battle. Most days its 30 mins here and there. Today however has been good. Hes slept probably a total of 6 hours during the day if not more and the times hes awake hes alert and so smily. The health visitor phoned me today for my 6 week check and said not to force him to sleep and just go with him. I'm just at a loose end. In rock him shhhh him. Take him for a walk etc. Natter to him for ages and hes still awake.

My husband has gone on furlough today so we cab share the load.

I have a cloth sling which I used the other day. I just didnt think baby felt very secure but it was first time using it so I will give it a go

Thanks for your reply guys. X

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Laylor · 10/04/2020 10:25

He slept really well again although I have noticed a couple if times he tends to wake up crying around 4am ish most nights. Takes about an hour to settle. Puts dummy in, spits dummy out, taps chest, strokes face, rocks cot, get him up- all for about an hour then he settles. Its around an hour after a feed. Thanks for asking. His mitten fell off this morning and he scratched his face bless him. Woke up the street xx

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Greenmarmalade · 10/04/2020 14:55

If he’s sleeping through til 4, he might not nap so much in the day. Lots of newborns will still be up every hour in the night to feed.

They don’t always just fall into a routine, especially in the first few months. My twins had completely different sleeping habits to each other, for example. Growth spurts will also change EVERYTHING!

Cloth sling: it should feel secure. Unless it’s a ready formed one such as baby bjorn, which aren’t so great for tiny babies.

Greenmarmalade · 10/04/2020 14:56

You sound like you’re doing really, really well (under difficult circumstances!!)

Laylor · 10/04/2020 16:01

Oh sorry I didn't explain myself properly. So he feeds every 3 hours in the night. But when it gets to 4ish he just wont go back down.

I have the Bjorn sling and the soft one also. I've tried both. He slept in the soft sling and hated the Bjorn one. I just didnt feel very secure in the soft one. I'll persist though and keep trying. Thankyou so much. X

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Selfsettling3 · 10/04/2020 18:18

If you join a local Facebook sling page and send them photos of your baby in the sling they will be able to tell you how to make it feel like he is more secure.

Laylor · 10/04/2020 19:41

Oh lovely I'll have a look in to that thanks. Hes been a right babe today. Sat In his chair outside whilst i water the flowers and husband mowes the lawn. Now hes having a quick power nap before he has a bath. Thanks for all your support. X

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Greenmarmalade · 10/04/2020 20:26

Mine have always had a thing about staying awake at 3am!

So glad you’ve had a lovely day!

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